"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can't really tell if shes fat from the pics - Do you still meet her?

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Zircon916 said:
So this chick sent me a pic of her and from the pic its really hard to tell if shes fat or not. It's not really a myspace angle, its just it looks like she might have a little chub shes hiding behind her arms and her decently sized tits. I can handle a bit of chubbyness, but straight up fat I don't do. She can be +/- 25lbs or so from the pics. So I decied to say **** it and go all in and meet her tonight.

What do you guys usually do in my situation, meet anyway and make an excuse if shes fat? It seems like that would be really hard to get away with and not look like a complete *******. Or do you ask for more pics? It seems like asking for more pics is kinda ******* too.
Question: Why do you care about looking like a complete *******?

Too many guys are obsessed about looking like a jerk. Who cares? Not the self-posessed, self-realized man. Seriously, read that question objectively and tell me it doesn't reek of emasculation. Rant over

In all practicality; If you ask for more pics and she's trying to downplay her negatives (her heftiness)and focus on her positives(the breats that typically accompany such heftiness) then any more pictures you'd recieve would be more the same. And assuming she did try to pull a bait-and-switch, I guarantee that she's been there before. The worst you're going to do is reaffirm her paradigm that all guys are superficial jerks (which will get you off the hook) and set up that one pathetic AFC who'll sweep her off her feet and prove the exception to the rule.

Here's the main thing you need to take away from this post: Wasting time does nobody any favors.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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