"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Over the last 6 months or so whenever I come across women, my only thoughts are if I would fu<k her or not. Not once does the thought of a relationship cross my thoughts, I see them as a piece of meat. Has this ocurred to anyone else, and how have you dealt with it?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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You're going to want to see them differently before you are actually able to.
 

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i dont see anything wrong with you. all guys are this way.

next time you are out and about just watch the males and females around you.

every single guy, i dont care if hes 95 years old, is constantly scanning his environment checking out women's *sses and breasts.

as men we are driven by lust.

you only need to start worrying about a woman's personality if you are looking for an LTR of any kind.

oh and interestingly, women look around just as much as men do, except that they tend to look at your eyes / face.
 

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[S]alvatore said:
Over the last 6 months or so whenever I come across women, my only thoughts are if I would fu<k her or not. Not once does the thought of a relationship cross my thoughts, I see them as a piece of meat. Has this ocurred to anyone else, and how have you dealt with it?
This is entirely normal. This is how you are wired. This is your masculine mind - where your natural reaction is instinctive and not clouded or filtered through all these conditioned social conventions (e.g. shallowness - "I shouldn't be objectifying women like this").

Embrace your masculinity. I bet many of the women you come across are having the same instinctive thoughts about you. If you can pick up on this vibe, even in an entirely non-sexual context - for example a business meeting - it can completely alter the underlying dynamic of the interaction, and you can use this awareness to your advantage. If she's into you and you pick up on it, you can be louder, more bold, more humorous and laid-back, use some mild double entendres, and you will get more favorable reactions in the non-sexual purposes of your encounter. Conversely, if you can tell she's not into you at all on a sexual level, you're more likely to win her over by sticking with the agenda and appealing to her sense of reason.

Sexual dynamics play a much larger role in human interaction than most people realize. They're certainly not limited to encounters in casual or social settings.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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So this is normal? I'm thinking fu<k, something's wrong with me. I dunno, it's just so hard to see women as more than a fu<k. When I was younger I had visions of a wife who would cook, clean, be a good mother but now, no way. Maybe this has been brought on by the way our world is becoming ie. women aren't being women anymore. They're becoming less trustworthy, faithful, blah blah blah the list goes on.
 

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When you start viewing women as sex objects first you are well on your way to mastering the game.

Basically you are conveying on a subconscious level that she has to qualify herself as something other than a fukk toy.

Women know their power lies in their beauty, but they all long to be valued for their other attributes.

By looking at them in a relationship context in the beginning you automatically send the message that she has already qualified herself on both levels. Beauty is beauty. Of course it's subjective, but an attractive woman usually already knows she is valued in THAT way, even though she still has self doubt.

If you can make her work for it on that end you gain power. If you can make her work for it on BOTH ends you pretty much hold all the cards.
 

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I'm not so sure about that fuzzx. When I date, I always enjoy the non-sexual interaction I have with women (when things go well) and sex then becomes MIND BLOWING.

There are some women I've met got to spend some time with them and realized they were nice girls but they were not for me...or I just wasn't that into them...so I just hang in there fuck em for awhile and then slowly disappear..until they find me and I have to explain thats its not them its me.

Looking at a woman as a sex object first, makes it easy for me to put in the effort to care enough to find out who she is on the inside.

Deep down I know if she's hot on the outside and amazing on the inside, I will enjoy being around her, with her and IN her that much more. Or if she's good looking but I'm not into her enough to want to spend NON sex time with her (but I will sleep with her) ..SCORE AGAIN !!

so what I'm saying is

1st) I need to know how I feel about women sexually

2nd) I need to develop feelings for women before sex to know if I want to invest more time in NON sexual things with her in the future.
 
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