Can't Get Rid of the Fear

[Leporello]

I joined this website quite a while ago and since then I've undergone a complete personal transformation. Obviously not all of this was thanks to sosuave - I hope I'm not the same perosn at 22 as 15 - but some of it was. I've gone from virgin to someone who can consistently get chicks, even if I'm not a 'lady killer' just yet.

BUT, even after all these years, i still can't feel totally confident in myself. Whenever I'm with a girl, no matter how interested I know she is - if we've been together over a year, if we slept together the previous night - I can't stop thinking that one day she'll just stop talking to me and I'll never know why.

If I send a text message and she doesn't answer as fast as usual, if she doesn't call when she said she would - agh1 It's not a good place to be. What can I do about this?

 

[Fash]

My first reaction would be: Grow some balls and man up!

But then again, I think most people are and have been where you are now. It is normal to feel like that early on in the relationship or before you've slept with her. But after a year???

I guess what you can do is just think that you don't need this chick. I'm sure you've seen that phrase on this forum a lot.

If you think like that, no matter how hard you try, you'll give of that vibe and THAT is the vibe that could make your worst fears come true.

If you truely believe that you don't need this chick, and keep your game tight, she won't just wake up one day and wanna leave you.

 

[Paintballguy]

My first reaction would be: Grow some balls and man up!

But then again, I think most people are and have been where you are now. It is normal to feel like that early on in the relationship or before you've slept with her. But after a year???

I guess what you can do is just think that you don't need this chick. I'm sure you've seen that phrase on this forum a lot.

If you think like that, no matter how hard you try, you'll give of that vibe and THAT is the vibe that could make your worst fears come true.

If you truely believe that you don't need this chick, and keep your game tight, she won't just wake up one day and wanna leave you.

Very true. If you are throwing out the "I don't give a f*ck about you vibe", girls eat that **** up. If you make the girl insecure, she will not even think about leaving you. Funny how it works.