Cant get over this girl...

[gimmeyofonenumba]

Long story short. I approached her the minute i saw her. Met near my work. Saw her once a week or so. Eventually asked for #, she declined "im not that easy". Some time went by. She runs into me again and acts interested in me. We talk, we were planning to hangout, later she spills the beans saying she has to move with her Mom. She's gone, never speak again. I think she kept trying to keep me at bay by not wanting to start a relationship before moving.

-at the time it wasnt that big of a deal, I was thinking I would just find another one. It has been 4 months now since i last seen her, but her face is like embedded in my memory. I have tried going out with other chicks, but I really wasnt STRONGLY attracted to them, so it just felt kinda boring and artificial. It just aint the same, I keep thinking of this same chick and how happy she made me.Man I could start pouring all the afc crap im thinking right now. Sometimes I think to myself that she may come back to visit...maybe I should move?

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Well normally I'd give you some tough love here, but I'm going to try a different approach in my response.

-Ask yourself why this girl is still stuck in your head when:

a) you never went out on a date with her
b) she never lead you to believe she was interested in you
c) you idealized her and put her on a pedestal before you even knew her.


That might give you some perspective on why your thinking the way you are right now. I'm not telling you she wasn't interested/attracted to you, but she definitely wasn't interested/attracted to you enough to get to know you better. Most likely it seems like she was thinking towards the future and her impending move as the reason to not start anything new with you or anyone for that matter.

You said you've been on a few dates with other women but they just didn't interest you, well keep going out and meeting new girls until you find a girl who does interest you. Honestly one-itis (which you kinda do have) is not a fun place to be. Its sooo hard to get out of that mind frame when your stuck on a girl but when you get out, you look back and feel foolish for wasting valuable time thinking about something you had absolutely no control over. Move on with your life, have fun, work towards your goals. If you ever run into her again then maybe something might happen, but don't count on that or live in the past. Its the biggest mistake guys make when they're coming up in the game.




PIMP

 

[Caveman]

Move on with your life, have fun, work towards your goals. If you ever run into her again then maybe something might happen, but don't count on that or live in the past. Its the biggest mistake guys make when they're coming up in the game.

He's absolutely right but I do realize that it's very hard to get out of that mindset. I have been in it several times and if I could tell you the easy way out, I would. The truth is: there is no easy way.

All you can do is try and focus on other things, other goals, other girls untill you find something or someone that keep you interested enough to forget about her. Find another passion. Try and tell yourself she is not the most important thing in your life every day and that she does not deserve your attention. This is not about her: it's about you!

You must get on with your life and she is not gonna help you with that, so go on out there and live!

Once you get out of your one-itus state of mind be very careful to keep away from it.. Easier to be prevented than to be cured.

 

[shiningshadow]

Those two responses were a great view on oneitits. Thanks.

 

[DJsparky]

You'll encounter these girls all the time, man. You've got to know that your the prize not her, if she doesnt want to get to know you more then thats her problem, plenty more fish in the sea and who knows you might hook a shark, just dont let her bite you.