Can't Get Over Her

[Following_of_Me]

I'm not going to flood this post with back story, cause frankly we've seen it all on this site before.

But about 7 months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of over a year. And, for the record, the only girl I'd ever lasted over a month with without telling her it wasn't working.

Since then, I've stopped by the site every once in a while, posted my thoughts on a few topics where I thought I could be of some help but haven't been regular here. I have spent a lot of time with my friends, met new girls in new places, been laid more than I was when I wasn't single, and had two girlfriends of about a month each. I have taken up more hobbies than I know what to do with, and enjoy each of them thoroughly.

The problem I'm having is no matter what I do, I cannot seem to get her out of my head. I've deleted her number, any pictures we had together, and haven't spoken to her since a few months after the breakup when we spoke briefly. Nothing seems to be working. This one just left a lasting impression.

I just need to know if there is anything else I can do, or anyone who's been through this, and I know countless have, how did you get over it?

 

[Donnie Darko]

It sounds like you are doing a really good job. Keep it up No one said it was easy.

You really want to not think about her at all.

You deleted her phone number and pictures. That is good but do you have anything else that reminds you of her? Gifts, letters, etc. - you may want to get rid of those too.

Whenever you start to think of her...instead of just focusing on the good memories of her..you need to really focus on the bad memories of her. If you think of her, remember the fights you had, ways that she mistreated you or disrespected you, her annoying quirks, her tardiness, her unwillingness to be sexually adventurous, and her complete willingness to walk away from you without batting an eye even after you had spent 7 months together.

She doesn't care about you anymore or think about you. So why are you going to waste time thinking about her?

Keep on doing what you are doing and find someone better than her.

It may help to intensify your work outs at the gym whenever you think about her. For example, if you find yourself thinking about her, then the next day add an extra 30 minutes on to your workout.

Finally, it is going to take time for your memories of her to fade. So again...keep doing what you are doing.

Keep enjoying being single and getting with lots of different girls.

 

[Former AFC]

Slap yourself every time you find yourself thinking about her.

Sooner or later you'll realize how stupid such an undeserving b*tch is making you look.

 

[Following_of_Me]

Thanks for the encouragement.

Actually we've been apart seven, we were together over a year. Doesn't matter, regardless.

She did try to contact me a month or so again, and I just didn't bother to read her email or answer her. I felt like it wouldn't help me in any way. Again, thank you for the encouragement, I'll keep trudging.

 

[Following_of_Me]

Not my first sexually. I guess you could say my first emotionally. First girl I ever really invested much of myself in. It ended when we realized we were driving each other crazy, and the "break" turned into us going our separate ways entirely, and I may have been the only one left regretful. Doesn't matter either way of course.

 

[Myrrdin]

There with you man. Split up 1 month ago, after 1 year relationship. If you've spent 7 months and still missing her, cause I also miss her and keep thinking about her, then I hope I'm not headed the same way. Here's an idea. Try a new LTR, but with a girl above your ex's value.

A prettier, smarter, funnier, less of a drama queen girl. You need new memories and a new deep connection. I fear that no matter how many girls you bang it won't be the same and all will have a major flaw, they're not her. So aim higher. Way higher. Don't settle for anything but the best.

At least that's what I intend to do.

 

[justkyle]

keep at it brah..... Litterrally the same boat.... And just swung through here for advice on the same topic. Need a hand dude. Throw me a message. Im all for helpin a brotha threw the ****ty times

 

[loveshogun]

Keep it up.

The problem I'm having is no matter what I do, I cannot seem to get her out of my head. I've deleted her number, any pictures we had together, and haven't spoken to her since a few months after the breakup when we spoke briefly. Nothing seems to be working. This one just left a lasting impression.

I just need to know if there is anything else I can do, or anyone who's been through this, and I know countless have, how did you get over it?

You're already doing it. It just takes time.

 

[parrot84]

Find a few hobbies dude! Don't be pathetic!

 

[mikeyb]

As the saying goes, there's no getting over the last one like the next one...in other words, go find other women!

 

[f283000]

Browse dating sites. I do it every time I start to get oneitis. It helps me think about other women, getting other women, and it reminds me of all the nice potential targets I have in my area (something we forget when we get oneitis we can only think of "her").

 

[P_Dawg_Jalapeno]

Find a few hobbies dude! Don't be pathetic!

Indeed. I find that a fat sac of weed and video games help a lot. But when your weed runs out, be careful.

 

[Mr.H]

Write a list of all the things about her that you didn't like. Everytime you think about her revert to the list.