Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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ese_sleeper

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so about 2 years ago a had a ltr with some girl for about 3 months, everything was good but then one day i decided to dump her for no apparent reason. then 2 months later i started missing her so then to get her attention i trespassed into her school one night with some spray cans and did a huge mural with her name (probally the dumbest thing ive done). so anyways the next day she saw it and she sent me a message through myspace with her phone number and saying that we needed to talk, so i called her and told her that we should talk face to face so i went over to her house and she basically told me that she has moved on and we should just be friends and after that i just stop talking to her.

now a year has passed since then and i still cant stop thinking about her, ive tried dating other girls, finding new hobbies but i just cant get her out of my head. do you guys think if i try one more time i could get her back? or is it not worth it to try anymore?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Chromeo

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you fvcked up. She thinks your crazy now, and nothing but maturely stepping back from the situation will change her mind about that. However that also means you will never get back with her. Move on.

In about three years, you could send her a message like "hey remember that time a spray painted your name on your school haha wow was I a dumb sh!t, thanks for not filing a restraining order on me, hope alls well"

but you should probably not
 

Iceberg

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Eh. You have 1 post on this board and it's about spray painting a girl's name on a wall.

If you want to troll an internet forum, you gotta start slow. You're peaking way too early.
 

boomerick

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ese stalker--

You need an education....

Your dial is set on 'epic fail' right now....

The good news is you can reprogram yourself and turn your dial to 'improve' and eventually to 'win'.....

Start with the basics....

Go to the bottom of this very page ....

Pick on the DJ Bible link.....

Read Pook and Anti-Dump.....

Then read through the Bible chapters.....

This will open up a whole secret world to you that most others have no idea about....

Be careful though once you've read this stuff you'll never look at yourself, your friends, or chicks the same way.....

Over and Out.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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runner83

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3 months qualifies as an LTR now? Gees.

Listen kid, your relationship ended with you narrowly avoiding being arrested as a stalker.

Think of it as a learning experience.

Forget her, she's gone, and she never was that great to start with anyway.

Follow boomerick's advice, and learn how things really work.
 

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Questions:

Did you have any good sex since you`ve left your ex?
Was(is) this girl your first love?
(yes/no)
 
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