cant get dumb sh!t out of my head

[tryin 2 play]

Guys, I have a problem thta has baically bothered me my ENTIRE dating life. I have my sh!t together in every aspect of my life, except for one part when it comes to girls I am dating.

With my last couple of girls, I have tried to avoid sexual history. However, with my current girlfriend it has come up a few times. She told me some sh!t that bothers me when I think abotu it. None of it is real bad likea 3some or anything, but I dont think any guy wants to picture his girl getting nasty with some other dude. For some reason, I just keep thinking about sh!t over and over that she has told me from the past. It will sometimes get me in a bad mood, and I feel like I dont care about her anymore.

None of it is real bad stuff, I just get a mental image and it makes me sick!! Anybody got any tips on how t stop thinking about this sh!t? It drives me crazy. P.s. I am extremely busy, so that is not the problem. No matter what I am doing it will be on my mind. I am probably busier than 95% of the people I know, so that is not the problem.

Anyway, any tips, websites, etc...? Much appreciated.

 

[Bvbidd]

I have this same problem, it sucks I know.

And that's just the stuff she told you about.

Oh, there's more.

Just think of what you have done though. No need to double standard right? lol If you've done anything that nasty that is. If YOU have. Then fvck, why judge?

 

[tryin 2 play]

Yea exactly. She hasn't done anything nasty that I know of. I have done some nasty stuff. I seem to have a HUGE double standard, and I try to remind myself not to. I just dont want to think of my girl doing that stuff! haha. But for some reason its OK for me to do it lol.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Mate, I am stuck in the same rut as you are. My gal has done real nasty crap but she is a good girl. She has done some experimenting back when she was single. Now the history has haunted me and sometimes I really dont even want to look at her. But she hasn't given me any real reason she would do those again but f*ck, I hate the visuals I am getting. Yea I know her history is pretty bad, but she's been the best LTR hands down and one of the best human beings I've ever met, apart from her history lol.

Yea I would love to find a way to get rid of it. I think I will always have issues with girls history the older I get the more jdgemental I become. The only big fights we have are over her history (unfair to her, I'm being a jerk to her) and other than that we have never had any major obstacles. So yes, a solution would be great.

By the way just be happy that some other guys' LTR have gfs with the most horrendous sexual pasts.

 

[DavenJuan]

read ruby tubesteaks thread about this same issue and see how it played out.

PAST DOESNT MATTER

you opened a can of worms for even wanting to know her past. for all we know, she could have been a completely different person. different friends, different issues to deal with.

i learned this lesson when i asked a ex gf of mine how many people she slept with and i thought it was a pretty low number. she told me over 30 and i was shocked. i looked at her differently after that but it really didnt matter. i ruined that realtionship based on nothing that had to do with ours.

dont make the same mistake and just read all the threads on this forum concerning the same issue. it never ends well if you dont let it go

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Yea mate you wouldn't want to be in my situation, just be glad it is not as bad as mine.

Just a question...

Would you rather have a young virgin girl with no experience or history whatsover and find out she is the most boring girl you have ever dated. She wants to take her time and don't want to be rushed as well as not being able to be good at pleasing you, being creative spontaneous and placid.

Or someone who has some old a*ss history which has nothing to do with you. She has done those things and never ever want to do it again. The girl treats you like royalty. She has no need to do anything with anyone but you. You have the best sex life and she doesn't bullsh*t you around.

 

[MooseGod]

Just focus on pleasing her better (in the sack) than any of those previous wannabes she dated. That always helps me sleep at night...knowing that I was the one that showed her how sex SHOULD be.

 

[JLW]

Just focus on pleasing her better (in the sack) than any of those previous wannabes she dated. That always helps me sleep at night...knowing that I was the one that showed her how sex SHOULD be.

+1.

My girlfriend told me how she "spent the night with someone" before we were going out or even met. I really didn't want to know what exactly happened for the exact reasons you mentioned. No one wants to think of their girlfriend sucking some other guy's ****. It just sucks (no pun intended)

but yea just listen to moosegod.

 

[LostAndConfused]

loose vagina.


nothing more needs to be said here.

 

[KontrollerX]

You know this is the strangest thing to me.

I could care less about the history of the previous guy's a girlfriend of mine sucked off and took it up the ass from so long as she wasn't doing this sh!t while in a relationship with me.

Like I would have no desire to hold any of this against a chick I'd be in a relationship with because to me my mind says well that relationship didn't have anything to do with me so why the fvck should it bother me its not like she cheated on me right?

See its strange to me that so many guys are bothered by a chick's history when it has nothing to do with them and they have their own history as well.

If a chick cheats on you then I can see why you'd be pissed but in this day and age to expect a girl to be a virgin when you get to her well thats for the most part unrealistic.

I guess its just the differences in how all of our minds work.

Really wish there was a way I could help you guys who are bothered by a chicks history to not be bothered by it but I guess the only way for you all currently is to simply not ask a new girlfriend you are with what she's done before you or for you guys to search and search and search and hope you get lucky and find a virgin.

Thats really all I can tell ya.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

Honestly if there is a sure method to get this crap out of our heads...I would tattoo your name on my left nut.

 

[Mr. Wise]

Some chicks don't know how to shut their mouths. It's an AFC behavior coming from a chick. We all know what AFC behavior does - lower the other person's IL.

 

[I.A.F.Y.B.]

Like everyone else said. The past is the past so, don't trip on it. Only thing that kind of pissed me off with some girls i've dated is an example. "Yeah, I use to swallow and blah blah blah." Then, I cant get them to swallow me!

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

By the way...with all the new things my gf is doing with me now, I doubt anyone could ever accept "our" track record.

If she is too honest with things from her past I doubt she has the capacity to lie about her other things in her past. If you ask, am I the first to do this, and if she says yes. Chances are she's more likely to be telling the truth. If she shes no, brace yourself because she will tell you and she damn will tell you in full detail. So either re-assess what you are going to ask or follow the cardinal rule of DONT ASK, DONT TELL.

Some girls are too honest sometimes which is far (maybe just a little) better then ones who lied through their teeth.

IAFYB, if a broad discloses to you she used to do things she won't do to you (which you would kill for) she is just robbing you of the best things and holding back. She's not worth it. IMHO, I wouldnt be kicking it with a girl if I can't do things at least twice as much as the previous.

 

[DonJuan11]

With my last couple of girls, I have tried to avoid sexual history. However, with my current girlfriend it has come up a few times. She told me some sh!t that bothers me when I think abotu it. None of it is real bad likea 3some or anything, but I dont think any guy wants to picture his girl getting nasty with some other dude. For some reason, I just keep thinking about sh!t over and over that she has told me from the past. It will sometimes get me in a bad mood, and I feel like I dont care about her anymore.

How do you know she isn't thinking the same way about you? She probably hates getting the mental image of you pounding your ex all night and doesn't want to be with you anymore either.

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

is there a way for the thread starter to dealwith it without it playing with his mind?

 

[Rudy_TubeSteak]

for some reason not a lot of girls care about guys sexual history. Ive seen so many good virgin girls fall for and get jiggy with absolute manwh*res. My gal doesnt doesnt want to know about mine either nor I even try to open pandoras box by telling her.