"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Can't get a read on this girl wanna help me out?

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Got a girls number on Friday texted her Sunday night.

Me: Hey this is Nacho we talked briefly at Excalibur Bar.

Her: Hey, how are you?

Me: i am good just got done playing soccer.

Her: Oh yea, fun stuff. (NOT GOOD SO FAR)

Me: yeah it was fun, hot but fun. are you on facebook?

Her: Actually im not, im really not on the computer enough so i never set one up. I think I should though

Me: Thats a good thing actually don't get on. Do you know any good places to go out on Wednesdays. (NOTICE I AM ALWAYS LEADING CONVO, BAD)

Her: Haha ok. Umm Bayou G is a good place for wed. The jizzpops play, their an 80's cover band and their awesome!

Me: sounds good ill check it out and ill probably see you and your friend around denver (I QUIT)

Her:I think you'll like them. And we'll be around. Text me sometime when your out, we can meet up :) (THIS IS WHAT THREW ME OFF)

ME: hey i checked out the band they actually are awesome and i don't know your schedule but do you want to something beforehand and walk from my place and c them.

Her: Well i have to be at work super early in the mornings, so i usually don't go out on week nights. Maybe another night? (here we go.....)

Me: how about skip the bar and i get you home at 8:30

Her: Maaaaaaaaaaaaaaybe. Where do you want to go?

Me: Its a secret but it rhymes with Gini Molf and its super close to my place.

Her: Haha, we will see im just usually so exhausted after work. But if not during the week maybe the weekend. (HMMMMMMM)
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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nmartinez12443 said:
Her:I think you'll like them. And we'll be around. Text me sometime when your out, we can meet up :) (THIS IS WHAT THREW ME OFF)

(HMMMMMMM)
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This is when stop that texting crap and get her on the phone. That was also a perfect opportunity to end it on a high not, then ring her up in a day or two.
 
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fair point gansta, should of ended with that. So your saying theres a chance, no desperate, just want to know if I showed waste my time.
 
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fair point gansta, should of ended with that. So your saying theres a chance, no desperate, just want to know if I showed waste my time.
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Off course there is a chance, albeit, small. The only person who doesn't have a chance is a quiter, and that you are not, I hope.

Well, the beauty of it is that if you wast any more time, it doesn't have to be much. Just call her up this week, and invite her to get together. That can take as little as less than 10 minutes, and if she's not interested, you no longer have to waste more time. That's the beauty of elminating the ones with low interest, you get to move onto to others.

Be ready for her to say she's busy, etc. just make sure that she counter offers you and suggests a different day, otherwise you can just forget about this one.
 
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