Can't fix this one.

[Amilz]

So this girl that was hot towards me went lukewarm after my AFC display. We been texting back and forth met once again after and she avoided any attempt I make but she still texts me.

I'm not into playing games. I say what's on mind so I decided to ask her if she felt like talking on the phone later and she came up with some dramatic excuse why she couldn't. I wen in NC ignored and ignored 2 texts but responded at the end of the second day. A couple of days later after some more mundane texts I asked her if this was ever going to be more than just texting. She put it on me told me she though I understand where she was at in life (busy with college and work). I called her out on it and said a phone call is not major.

She said she got tired of me trying to get her to do things when she told me she would let me know. She was giving me non definitive answers and I called her on it again (AFC and pointless, I know now). Finally she said she doesn't want to date me and doesn't want to talk to anyone as well as me and that all she wanted to do was get through the last month of school.

I responded "nice meeting you, goodbye". I guess a rejection can't get anymore blunt than that. We hit off so well in the beginning but just one mistake with the AFC behavior killed it. It takes me forever to find a girl that keeps my interest so I take it hard when it doesn't work out. If it was her fault I would be over it but because it's mine I keep wanting to correct it.

 

[DonGorgon]

typical sad situation that most men deal with very often she has no attraction or respect for you at all. and she his Fing other dudes so best you move on

 

[MOTU]

For the sake of discussion, what do you think you could have done differently to change the outcome?

 

[Harry Wilmington]

We need more detail - when you say "AFC DISPLAY" what things were you doing (aside from texting her WAAAAY too much)?

 

[VladPatton]

That's how you learn. Those mistakes hurt so bad you don't dare make them again.

 

[adotdot8]

best you move on.

 

[Yo'Mama]

My game with girls I am not that interested in is perfect. I mean, it just couldn't get any better. And it's entirely effortless, I'm doing all the things I should be doing without even thinking about them, actually probably pushing things a bit far at times, but hey, that's fine because I'm indifferent to the outcome.

Now if only I could replicate that game for chicks I am interested in. Should be easy, shouldn't it?

 

[Amilz]

For the sake of discussion, what do you think you could have done differently to change the outcome?

I should have ignored her and replied weeks later as if we didn't have that exchange but in reality it would have lead right back to the plain text exchanges.

 

[Amilz]

We need more detail - when you say "AFC DISPLAY" what things were you doing (aside from texting her WAAAAY too much)?

We met 3 times and the last time it was close to getting intimate. She texted me the next day saying how great the date was and that is when I asked her how she was feeling about us so far. Downhill from there, lol. She played it right by keeping it cool and I had expectations that of how she was gonna respond. What she said and how she acted were much different. She had high interest because she texted me first thing in the morning and I had contacted her even to check if she made the drive home (I passed out). After a little argument through texts she implied how disappointed she was because she really liked me but she didn't want to hassle with it and just move on.

The thing is is that this is not the first time I came on too strong about how a girl felt about me but when I do it's mostly because of the physical attraction not leading to something. If she is sleeping with somebody else, which I imagine she is because she mentioned 2 ex's contacting her on sort of a 4th hangout session we had that went terrible.

 

[The_411]

We met 3 times and the last time it was close to getting intimate. She texted me the next day saying how great the date was and that is when I asked her how she was feeling about us so far. Downhill from there, lol. She played it right by keeping it cool and I had expectations that of how she was gonna respond. What she said and how she acted were much different. She had high interest because she texted me first thing in the morning and I had contacted her even to check if she made the drive home (I passed out). After a little argument through texts she implied how disappointed she was because she really liked me but she didn't want to hassle with it and just move on.

The thing is is that this is not the first time I came on too strong about how a girl felt about me but when I do it's mostly because of the physical attraction not leading to something. If she is sleeping with somebody else, which I imagine she is because she mentioned 2 ex's contacting her on sort of a 4th hangout session we had that went terrible.

What the hell is close to getting intimate? Accidentally brushing your hand her chest?

By date 3 you should be f closing 85-90% of the time. She's not interested because you didn't escalate nearly enough.

You basically put your balls in a jar and handed them to her by asking how she felt about "us" so far. There's no point to that question for you as man.

Think about it for a second you're giving her then power by asking what do you think.

You are a man ... you lead ... you shouldn't care about words but rather actions. Leaders act ... followers ask for permission

 

[Amilz]

What the hell is close to getting intimate? Accidentally brushing your hand her chest?

By date 3 you should be f closing 85-90% of the time. She's not interested because you didn't escalate nearly enough.

You basically put your balls in a jar and handed them to her by asking how she felt about "us" so far. There's no point to that question for you as man.

Think about it for a second you're giving her then power by asking what do you think.

You are a man ... you lead ... you shouldn't care about words but rather actions. Leaders act ... followers ask for permission

Yea, I need to change my perspective. I used to think that by asking them I'm showing them that I care but in reality I'm showing them that I need their approval.