"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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OlympicTim

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Boys I literally dunno why but I cant do this. I go out and approach 10-20 girls a night try my best to eye contact, kino, ask about her etc etc. I physically can not pull a girl to save my life. I can go talk to her for 5-10 minutes get a number but its either a fake or i get no response.

Dont take this as a i give up post im just getting frustrated and honestly a little pissed off because I feel like im a good looking attractive man whos got all the qualitys needed to pull girls but for some reason I get rejected again and again.

Anyone ever went through a stage like this and what do you do to get over it.

Im starting to get annoyed because I feel like i should be getting results but im not.

I dont want it to sound like im complain and whinning and bitching (even though I realize i partially am)
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SeymourCake

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1. Are you fit?
2. Are you fashionable?
3. Do you have a social circle of your own?
4. Do you have money?
5. What is your popularity like in your area?
6. Do you frequently groom yourself?

If cold approaching does not work for you, then try expanding your social circle and meet women through that route.
 

stevo

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You should be more concerned with why you are approaching 10-20 girls a night.

When you live the life you enjoy, you soon realize meeting women is just part of the routine. Don't make chasing women your life.

Being at ease is very attractive, talking to every girl and being thirsty is very repulsive.
 

amazingswayze

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quality over quantity. none of us know what your encounters are like. only you do. we cant help much. you have to learn through trial and error where you are messing up and fix it. sure, it might take you more work than the next guy but that just means when you finally get good it will be that much sweeter.

keep your head up tim.

adjust your game.
 

parkthebus

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If you allow yourself to feel slightly desperate for punani that will likely be, at least partially, the impression you give. Have fun with it. You sound like a soccer player who hasn't scored in 20 games but as soon as they get one they start scoring every game. In positive psychology people talk about "flow" which is where you're in the moment and performing your best. Again something sportsman experience. Youre more likely to experience when you're having a good time with your friends and cracking all the jokes or when you're doing some hobby you love really well. Flow is basically what puts sportsman in form. It's a combination of confidence and pleasure. Don't set a target for women and you won't be able to fail and therefore derive more pleasure. Just enjoy the process of talking to them. If you can control yourself, don't even ask for numbers. Next you need confidence which should be present if you can just have positive interactions with people without having to meet the punani goal. So just talk to women, not game then and enjoy it.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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