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can't dance. How to invade this embarassing situation in an elegant way

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hi folks,

as a matter of fact, I am a person who is not endowed with the "ryhthm-feeling", so therefore I cannot dance, and if I try, I rather look goofish.

Is there a elegant way to make clear to her, that I am not a dancer? :confused:

Thanks for any help
 

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It'll be easier just to learn than living the rest of your life trying to evade these situations
 
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just go out there and dance...not like you have to do justin timberlake moves or something. first time i ever danced was at a club...did i know wtf i was doing? no. watch movies or something...like Hitch.
 
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Is there a elegant way to make clear to her, that I am not a dancer?
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When women are out on the dance floor, they're not doing it because they're professional dancers. They're doing it because they want to HAVE FUN. Having fun is all you need to do on the dance floor.

Also, putting your dance-phobia aside increases your odds with women. Most men won't go onto the dance floor because, like you, they're afraid of looking like idiots.

Nobody's judging you because they're too busy judging themselves.
 
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www.howtobecooler.com/dance - How to Dance - Gives a basic overview of the topic

There's also an article on askmen about how to pretend you know how to dance. Not sure what the address is though.
 

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since when did we have to dance?

I know the "I'm gonna go get another drink" bar-shuffle and I do fine.. lol
 
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Hey..you rarely post in here Warboss, lol!

lol, I just kinda bounce to the music (NOT LITERALLY). I go to have fun.
 
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Just don't think about what you're doing while you dance. Before, when I would make a conscious effort to dance well, my movements would look kinda contrived and unnatural. Now, I just let my mind wander while I dance. The music just sort of "takes over", and my movements look much more natural. I also started getting lots of compliments on my moves from chicks :D.
 
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You need to find your style. Get ur mp3 player or ipod, play some trance, go in front of a mirror and just move it with the beat. Ask a female friend or if you have the cajones ask the girl at the club to show you how to move with the beat. My female friend convince me to go out on the dancefloor and show me how to move my body. OF COURSE YOU NEED SOME ****TAILS AND SHOTS to get in the move to relax. Oncec you do it's easy I think. Hey I'm no professional but the way how you move your hands on a girl's body can get more that what you ask for. It's all about body language so WATCH for those RED FLAGS.
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everyone can dance you just need to know how to let it out.

just feel the rhythm. if you don't know how to count a beat then ask a friend. then you'll know how to get the rhythm of a song, then just go out there and have fun
 
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Learn.
the secret is on the hips ;)
 
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