Can't climax during sex with one woman: Please help [merged]

[TempestNight]

I recently met a girl from a cafe, and we are really into each other, last night after a few drinks in a pub she came to my place and we did it for the first time.

The foreplay was amazing and I can tell she had her breath taken away (her exes didn't do foreplays), but when it came to the real thing, my **** got soft and flabby just after maybe 5 min.

I have to say it was because her vagina was too loose for me, she gave birth a couple years ago vaginally and it got loosened somewhat, I still got horny and **** but after a few minutes of thrusting, it just wasn't tight enough for me. And then slowly I just get soft.

To makes things worse she's one of those chicks that likes it completely dark, as we know men are visually stimulated, so I can't see anything at all and that kinda turned me off as we were doing it.

The problem was that I couldn't have the heart to tell her that I didn't climax because she was too loose, that's like a chick telling a guy that she can't climax because his **** is too small. Worse, she told me that she has never had a guy who couldn't climax with her, and she was blaming herself for it (she really wanted me to ***). Of course I told her it was just bad mood, we had too much to drink, etc.

We are going to meet and no doubt do it again this Sunday.

I really have no game plan right now besides suggesting turning on a dim light so i can see something, and maybe tell her to talk dirty.

I want to know if there is anything else I can do to work around the problem of her vagina being too loose for me, so I won't go flabby after 5 min. I'm considering Cialis, but at this point it's a last resort for me.

Sincerely thanks for any input.

 

[backseatjuan]

Viagra 100 mg, cut it in two.

It's not cuz her vagina loose, it's cuz you nervous, perhaps subconsciously.

With same success you could stop jerking off for at least 1 week and fvck the living jesus out of her.

 

[sicsec]

Vagina loose, have her wrap her legs around your back in missionary which tightens her up in there. If that doesn't work think of another girl while your banging her or put in a porno while banging and that should do it.

 

[Die Hard]

put in a porno while banging.

ROFL!!! Not sure the girl is gonna respond well to that

 

[Zarky]

yikes, tough situation. Gotta say that women who've had kids are always looser than those who haven't, even if it was years ago. Those muscles just never go back to normal.

viagra/cialis may help, but unless there are other issues I don't know if you should be medicating yourself because she isn't stimulating you, you know? Those drugs are when the problem is with you, not when it's with her.

Maybe drink less, don't get off for a few days before the date, etc.

 

[ATX1001]

Stop watching porn

Stop jerking off

 

[betheman]

I recently met a girl from a cafe, and we are really into each other, last night after a few drinks in a pub she came to my place and we did it for the first time.

The foreplay was amazing and I can tell she had her breath taken away (her exes didn't do foreplays), but when it came to the real thing, my **** got soft and flabby just after maybe 5 min.

I have to say it was because her vagina was too loose for me, she gave birth a couple years ago vaginally and it got loosened somewhat, I still got horny and **** but after a few minutes of thrusting, it just wasn't tight enough for me. And then slowly I just get soft.

To makes things worse she's one of those chicks that likes it completely dark, as we know men are visually stimulated, so I can't see anything at all and that kinda turned me off as we were doing it.

The problem was that I couldn't have the heart to tell her that I didn't climax because she was too loose, that's like a chick telling a guy that she can't climax because his **** is too small. Worse, she told me that she has never had a guy who couldn't climax with her, and she was blaming herself for it (she really wanted me to ***). Of course I told her it was just bad mood, we had too much to drink, etc.

We are going to meet and no doubt do it again this Sunday.

I really have no game plan right now besides suggesting turning on a dim light so i can see something, and maybe tell her to talk dirty.

I want to know if there is anything else I can do to work around the problem of her vagina being too loose for me, so I won't go flabby after 5 min. I'm considering Cialis, but at this point it's a last resort for me.

Sincerely thanks for any input.

how old are you? maybe you drank too much, maybe a bit of performance anxiety? you have never screwed a woman who has given birth before? maybe that was pl;aying on your mind?
wouldnt worry too much about MR Floppy, he will be fine, you just need to get your head around screwing a woman who is a bit looser than your used to?

as for not coming, her head will be in overdrive, she will feel unatractive and not good enough, se will probably be over you like a rash the next time

 

[TempestNight]

I'm 21 she's 23.

Haven't jerked off since last time we banged, if I do come on Sunday with her it will be buckets lol.

I wouldn't say I was having performance anxiety the first time, but maybe it was in my subconscious and I wouldn't know anyways.

But I am getting a bit nervous as Sunday is approaching. I have never not come with a woman or make her not come before. It just isn't me at all.

And no I have never done a MILF before.

Thanks for the tip about telling her to wrap her legs around me as we are doing missionary, gonna try it out.

 

[st_99]

I remember banging a girl that felt loose and yeah, it was just lame. Anyway, the way I got past it and was able to finish was just focus really hard about lust and sh!t like that and just try to get into it mentally, just stay focused, think tits, ass, sex, etc (it will take your mind off her loose snatch).. and you'll get there.