Advice from the old lady:
Agree to a large degree with
@MrWood on this. Since being married (although historically I’ve always been a LTR gal) I’m just not into silly BS. I’d rather have something meaningful with someone I actually care for and am attracted to.
If that means down time between relationships, that’s fine. I’m good being alone. I’m solid. I’ve got a life & responsibilities and so does any person who has their act together.
I’m happy to let things develop slowly. Or to redevelop or to emerge in an organic way. This takes time.
Keep in mind that some women, particularly if of a traditional mind set, may respond but not initiate. Texting and social media have created this expectation that responses ought to be instantaneous and that traditional gender roles (male leads...female responds) are passé. Except really they aren’t passe at all. They remain relevant.
I choose from men who approach me...who show interest in me. I don’t worry about men who don’t...but my life has stuff going on and I might not respond in 2 seconds. A man needs to be even keeled enough to understand this.
Be patient. See if she responds. Keep leading. If she doesn’t respond wait a few days before reaching out again. Or if it’s warranted wait a week or so. You can’t know what someone else has going on. If a week from now you text & still nothing? Move on. Failure to respond is still a signal.
Or date the 30 year olds. They’re more responsive if they like you. You have to decide what YOU want from your interactions with women & go from there. I know men in their late 40s & 50s who prefer to date someone close in age who has similar frame of reference and life experience...but if you prefer much younger and can attract them? Do that if it suits you.
Figure out what you are looking for & then act accordingly. Whatever that means.
But some women (myself included) are not going to actively pursue men. I simply wasn’t raised that way & it feels entirely unnatural to me.
