"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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cancelled date, any help,thoughts,?

danieljsalas

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hey guys I set a date with a girl for today and she cancelled me today. ok here is the description

1) I called her on thursday set for sunday 8pm blah blah
2) I got a lost phone call for her on friday at 12 30 am:confused:
3) Today i text message telling her to meet at 7 30 instead of 8, then she replies "sorry but i have a family affair today, and we wont be able to meet, if you want we can meet next saturday
4) I text back ok no prob. we'll see if we can ok saturday
5) she text back saying that at the end she wont be able to make it tonight, asking me if i added her at MSN.
6) i text back "haha you seem confused, well no prob. well talk during the week to see if we can meet on saturday, yes i added you to my msn list"
7) an hour past with no response, thinking she hadn't received the message
8) she replied "yes, dont worry"
9) i message back"ok, have a nive day"


To me now I think i replied to much, and there seems at least to be a little interest. what do you guys think?

I think is kind of bull**** with some light at the end of it

well thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Well, just think positive for now I guess. Give her ONE more chance....if she cancels next Saturday too, then forget about her for awhile....
 

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I agree with rocket. She may have flaked, but sometimes women WILL flake for the wrong reasons. I've had women that were into me flake for stupid reasons like their hair straightener wasn't working, or it's rainy out and it'll mess up their hair (little did I know I found these things out later down the road).

Anyways, one more chance. Make sure she initiates contact to meet up this time. If she doesn't make other plans.
 

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I concur. One flake, no more.

Also, was this the first date?
 

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Yes, i approached her in the metro,open her, got the number, call her,then she said i was really nice(on the text message), and that the phone call surprised her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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danieljsalas said:
hey guys I set a date with a girl for today and she cancelled me today. ok here is the description

1) I called her on thursday set for sunday 8pm blah blah
2) I got a lost phone call for her on friday at 12 30 am:confused:
3) Today i text message telling her to meet at 7 30 instead of 8, then she replies "sorry but i have a family affair today, and we wont be able to meet, if you want we can meet next saturday
4) I text back ok no prob. we'll see if we can ok saturday
5) she text back saying that at the end she wont be able to make it tonight, asking me if i added her at MSN.
6) i text back "haha you seem confused, well no prob. well talk during the week to see if we can meet on saturday, yes i added you to my msn list"
7) an hour past with no response, thinking she hadn't received the message
8) she replied "yes, dont worry"
9) i message back"ok, have a nive day"


To me now I think i replied to much, and there seems at least to be a little interest. what do you guys think?

I think is kind of bull**** with some light at the end of it

well thanks
You handled it very good. Don't let her see you sweat about it. Better yet, don't sweat it, period. Just make sure you get her on the phone in a few days, and half-tease her about it and ask her how will she make it up to you.
 

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Ok ok, I see i think i should wait till friday or saturday to see if i get in call from her otherwise, i will call saturday morning and she if she is up for that night, otherwise, i think it is the end since she is not showing back any good signs, unless she proposes somthing else

thanks guys
 

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danieljsalas said:
1) I called her on thursday set for sunday 8pm - OK
2) I got a lost phone call for her on friday at 12 30 am:confused: - So am I
3) Today i text message telling her to meet at 7 30 instead of 8, then she replies "sorry but i have a family affair today, and we wont be able to meet, if you want we can meet next saturday - OK
4) I text back ok no prob. we'll see if we can ok saturday - Should have said Saturday is no good for me. I'll get back to you when its good for me.
5) she text back saying that at the end she wont be able to make it tonight, asking me if i added her at MSN. - What does one have to do with the other?
6) i text back "haha you seem confused, well no prob. well talk during the week to see if we can meet on saturday, yes i added you to my msn list" - Should have just said "yes, I added you"
7) an hour past with no response, thinking she hadn't received the message
8) she replied "yes, dont worry"
9) i message back"ok, have a nive day"

well thanks
What are you "talking" to her about meeting next Saturday for? Make the date and shutup until the date. That means no texts, phones, emails or msn. When she cancelled on you and rescheduled, you were so eager to get into her pants that you said "Saturday is fine" You should have "no, Saturday doesn't work, I'll get back to you when it does work" Let her think you are getting laid on Saturday by a girl who is not her.
 

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ok Ok i see, I made some mistakes, I didnt offer saturday she did, she text saying "Sorry i wont make it tonight, but if you want we can meet on saturday(next week) and go out" that was the sentence 3 that i wrote above. I didnt tell her to do anything on saturday. after the second message telling me she couldnt go out yesterday (sunday) i replied the 6 sentence wrote above.

Ok now do you think the best think to do is wait for her to call during the week? otherwise call her same saturday or wait for another week, and not the weekend?

thanks guys
 
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