Cancel on ur boys

[DJinTraining06]

Would u guys cancel on ur male friend the opportunity to get laid suddenly arose? I live at home still and so does my girl, its gunna be impossible to have sex with her. Id say maybe twice a month if were lucky.

So here's the thing, tomorow afternoon i made tentative plans to do somethin with my friends, nothin in stone yet. But we talked about it and i said i was free cuz i have off from work. Now out of the blue my gf said shes gonna be in my area, and wanted to know if id be home, cuz she might stop by. My mom aint home in the afternoon, so its the perfect opportunity. But i feel bad cancellin on my firends, ahvent seen a couple of them in a while.

Is this a no brainer?

 

[jonwon]

Would u guys cancel on ur male friend the opportunity to get laid suddenly arose? I live at home still and so does my girl, its gunna be impossible to have sex with her. Id say maybe twice a month if were lucky.

So here's the thing, tomorow afternoon i made tentative plans to do somethin with my friends, nothin in stone yet. But we talked about it and i said i was free cuz i have off from work. Now out of the blue my gf said shes gonna be in my area, and wanted to know if id be home, cuz she might stop by. My mom aint home in the afternoon, so its the perfect opportunity. But i feel bad cancellin on my firends, ahvent seen a couple of them in a while.

Is this a no brainer?

First:
Find out for certain if your women is coming over then find out for how long.
That way you can see if you can see her and your mates later.

Yes its a no brainer!

Its upto you, but from the post, your not letting anyone down since you dont have any solid plans! Now if you had some thing set in stone then np but you dont so whats the problem.

Now i would be pis**ed if i stood up my mates and the women did not come over, so in that find out if she is really coming over, not hard really is it?

 

[Jay Jay]

A good mate understands.

 

[DJinTraining06]

First:
Find out for certain if your women is coming over then find out for how long.
That way you can see if you can see her and your mates later.

Yes its a no brainer!

Its upto you, but from the post, your not letting anyone down since you dont have any solid plans! Now if you had some thing set in stone then np but you dont so whats the problem.

Now i would be pis**ed if i stood up my mates and the women did not come over, so in that find out if she is really coming over, not hard really is it?

yea i only feel bad about it cuz i cancelled on this one guy like twice in the past 3 weeks, once cuz i was tired and another time cuz i went to meet this same girl instead. I also havent seen him in like a month and we're best friends. One of the other guys is a close friend too. But yes they should understand right? Not that im gonna tell them why im cancelling, i think makin up a lie would be better asuming i come up with a good beleivable lie.

Anyway, funny thing about this. I told the girl that i might not be free cuz i had tentative plans with the guys, but id def be free by like 6 pm, and she was like ohhh well we could just do it another day. So i say - no i should def be free by then i got nothin after 6 why not. and again she said dont worry bout it some other day. So then i said well we talk bout it i guess. Wasnt sure how to respond to her after that.

I wonder if shes thinking just sex too lol. Cuz she knows my mom isnt home in the afternoon and would be after 6. hmmmmmm if thats true it makes me happy and sad at the same time. I like my girls to love sex, but i also like when they wanna see me regardless. Im supposed the be the one planning out ways to have sex not her lol. i dontnwanna be a peice of beef to her. Idliek to beed and soemthing more.

 

[jlr12584]

heres my two cents on it : girls come and go in life very often. but best friends are there to stay, for years and you can count on them through the good times and the bad. sex is great, but it should never matter more than a good friendship.

so tell her im sorry i promised my friends i'd see them tonight, how about we get together the next day or whenever. your friends will value your relationship more and your girlfriend will respect you as well. its part of being mature and realizing in life you dont think with ur little guy all the time.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

A good mate understands.

Yes, and a scheming woman will take advantage....

Just something to consider....

 

[DJinTraining06]

Yes, and a scheming woman will take advantage....

Just something to consider....

what do u mean?

 

[Charm]

Dont be someone who your friends cannot count on. If you make plans with your friends, stick to those plans. If you must break it, reschedule first.

 

[ryannath]

The general rule is if a girl is making plans to come see you and wanting to hang around you, and especially be alone with you, then that means she wants your cvck. Come on man, you know this crap.

 

[DJinTraining06]

The general rule is if a girl is making plans to come see you and wanting to hang around you, and especially be alone with you, then that means she wants your cvck. Come on man, you know this crap.

well yea thats what i figured, but im just wonderin if it makes me a punk to cancel on my friends. I hate bein liek that, but then again ive only slept iwth 2 women in my life, and shes hot. The way girls r she may dump me next week, and ill never get another chance.

 

[Mjazz]

How long does it take you to have sex? 30 mins tops? Just do it and then go hang out with your friends, tell them that you might be a little late. You get the best of both worlds

 

[ValleyDJing]

what do u mean?

She'll throw a god damn fit if you ever cancel on her to be with your boys, thats what.

Depends on what you were doing with you're boys. If it was just a movie or something you're friend is gonna understand...matter of fact, a good friend is gonna cheer you on. But say, you're supposed to be best man at your friends wedding, forget it.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

what do u mean?

There are women out there who will test the relationship by seeing where they stand with you and your friends. Some will go out of their way to want to see you knowing you've already planned things with your friends. It's a bit disconcerting to see what some guys will forgo just to get laid.

 

[kyphan]

There are women out there who will test the relationship by seeing where they stand with you and your friends. Some will go out of their way to want to see you knowing you've already planned things with your friends. It's a bit disconcerting to see what some guys will forgo just to get laid.

This is exactly what I was thinking.

Put your friends first man. It'll drive women crazy from time to time, but if you skip out on your friends for her early in the relationship she'll always expect you to.

 

[Jay Jay]

I agree, put your friends first.

And if that means that he has to choose between having a few beers with me or taking the opportunity to get a shag I will always say "go for it boy!"

Yeah, put your friends first until you've decided you wanna be with this chick forever and even then don't neglect them.

But seriously, a choice between a rare chance for sex and hanging out with your mates for one arvo? To me that is a no brainer.

From this story it doesn't sound like she is doing anything manipulative.

JJ

 

[JPFromTally]

A couple of years ago my friend cancelled hanging out with me on my birthday to hang out with his girlfriend. I then put a curse on him that she would break up with him.

Sure enough, two weeks later I banged her at a party while we were both drunk.

 

[ValleyDJing]

A couple of years ago my friend cancelled hanging out with me on my birthday to hang out with his girlfriend. I then put a curse on him that she would break up with him.

Sure enough, two weeks later I banged her at a party while we were both drunk.

see thats what i'm talking about. Don't cancel for something important...but if its like, uhhh...we're just gonna sit around the house and do nothing, I'm definitely going for the lay.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Here's something to consider, if she's truly interested in you and she's one of the good ones, she'll either counter or accept your counter. It's not as if you couldn't see her later in the evening or the next day. It's not choosing one over the other, it's balancing the two.

 

[DJinTraining06]

Here's something to consider, if she's truly interested in you and she's one of the good ones, she'll either counter or accept your counter. It's not as if you couldn't see her later in the evening or the next day. It's not choosing one over the other, it's balancing the two.

Oh well yea she actually flat out said, oh we could just do it another day if u have plans.
So she def is into me and not doin anthing wrong at all. SHe totally respected it. But i kinda regret mentioning my plans at all, cuz they were tentative. My friend told me he might call me if he and the other 2 guys were doin somethin cuz for some reason nobody has work 2day, so it was gonna be an afternoon thing. Now my friend still hasnt called, there never was a time or place in the first place, so i really shouldnt feel guilty i guess. And as for balancing the two, guaranteed they r gonna call me to grab dinner at this sports bar for wings and beer around 6 or 7. So if this girl comes at 3-4 which it seems she is, then it makes only 1 possible. Oh well

If the plans were set in stone it would be different. I do feel a tiny bit of guilt, only cuz i cancelled on this guy to meet this same girl a few weeks ago. But if i hadnt done that, i maybe wouldnt have been goin out with her now, so it worked out. Guy friends should understand that shouldnt they? Isnt that wat makes them good friends? The thing here is its new, only seen this girl like 5 times, so i wanna keep this thing going, the momentum and stuff. With my past gf's, once i was with them a while, i never would cancel on my friends.
But in the beginnign, how can u not? Or am i a punk lol