"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you use the principles of game for non-romantic purposes?

Findog

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Say you want a better working relationship with female work colleagues, or you want to be closer and get along better with your sister or your mom. Can you use game to influence a woman's behavior when you're not trying to sleep with her? Do many of the same principles apply?

Does the frustrations of the AFC when it comes to romantic conquests carry over into platonic female relationships?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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"Game" isn't deep ocean physics, or answer to life.

As Uncle Zeek says, it's just common sense at play.

Don't overrate it.

But the general attitude advertised in this community IS very general and

positive.

I'd sum it up in two words

Improve thyself.
 

The Gambler

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Boilermaker said:
"Game" isn't deep ocean physics, or answer to life.

As Uncle Zeek says, it's just common sense at play.

Don't overrate it.

But the general attitude advertised in this community IS very general and

positive.

I'd sum it up in two words

Improve thyself.
^^^^ All the way... ^^^^

When you have something to be proud of (the way you look, carry yourself, interact with others), by default you're gonna be a more confident person who is more in tune with those around you.

I'm happily married, and can't emphasize enough how "game" -- if you want to call it that -- has made me feel more comfortable around others.
 

YOUR BORING LIFE

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Yes. Certain principles of game (alpha vs beta), (leader vs follower) will of course work on female colleagues, female family members etc...

Game shouldn't just only be utilized as a tool to get laid.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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When I worked in sales, I hardly ever made a sale to a man. The only men who bought from me did so for the sake of a woman. Almost all of my sales came from women. I'm a charmer. Old ladies love me.

The same company had another rep who was a smoking hot young woman. I'd always see her at the company awards banquets; she was a top salesperson herself. But in talking to her boss and coworkers, she just about never made a sale to a woman. It was all men. :)
 

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Yes.

The three second rule is good at any social gathering. Even around a group of business people, approach and greet them right away. It shows confidence.

A watered down more playful version of c&f can be used on friends and family. Why do friends playfully "rib" each other? It's a sign of affection.
 
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