"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can you train your girlfriend?

Joe The Homophobe

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A man that is not in control of his relationship is no man, and will probably end up suffering at the end. When it comes to male/female relationships there can only be 1 leader, and that is the man. If you believe in the equality bullsh**** you will end up like every other nice guy out there.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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frivolousz21

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this is so simple???

train as in what?

if I want to see my friends..I go see them.

If I curse I curse...if its to much ill change slightly to acccording to what is proper.

you dont need to train ****..

you need to BE A MAN!

AND NOT LET ANYONE PUSH YOU AROUND INCLUDING YOUR GIRLFRIEND!!!
 

Qmanchoo

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To add to what DJDamage said...

If you don't do this your relationship is doomed to either A. Fail quickly or B. Cause you extreme long term unhappiness

This really should be a natural thing that comes from experience.

Meaning...

The ground rules are for YOUR happiness, because you know what makes you happy and what pisses the fvck out of you.

Think about it.

You have relationship A, something about the other person pisses you off to some degree or something happens and for some reason you break up, call the reason CrapX.

In relationship 2 you take CrapX and use it as a ground rule because you know THAT could cause the relationship to end or produce a bad result.

Relationship 2 ends, now you have CrapX and CrapY.

and so on.

At first these should be a the big things (example below), not little picky crap like "Don't cut yoru toenails over the sink." ... the little things can be worked on later.

Now there is a degree to where you have too much crap (rules) that a normal or avg person could never own up to or remember all the time no matter how much they like you...so don't go too nuts.

I've found that the following works wonders and makes you really seem like a prize to the girl.

Tell her (usually right after the first time she says how much she likes you in some way) "Treat me well and I'll stick around" usually I get a very deep emotionally sounding "I'll try." However, I've always said that because I really meant it. It's a result of experiencing CrapX and CrapY and knowing what I will/will not tolerate.
 
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