Can you tell your girlfriend you like her?

[thegamedontwait]

Do you guys really NEVER tell your girlfriend you like her? NEVER?

Quite, honestly Id rather be single and just **** instead of having a girlfriend and not being able to tell her I like her (I believe you can tell a girl you like her without soundinglike you're a ****in' boyband member).

Guess what, I see AFCs around me who tell their girlfriends this kind of **** way more than I would ever consider in my wildest dreams and I know a handful who are in relationships that have lasted like 7 years or have gotten married by now.

I've been there, too and told a girl I liked her first and was wondering why she turned from hot to cold in a minute. I probably won't do that again haha, but guess what? That chick was a ****in' nut job in the first place, and I'm glad I never ended up getting with her looking back at it.

Is it possible the chicks who are turned off by you telling them you like them (in a non-wussy way.... and not being the first one to do so...) are....no g/f material, in the first place (and should just be used for sex;-))?

I've simply stuck to being a "Man" on the one hand and simply not holding back my masculine desires - why would I if they love it?;-) (I like rough sex and am totally into spanking chicks asses and making them tell me who's the boss in bed & calling them a slut, etc. w/o goign overboard) ....and a nice & friendly guy on the other hand.....

Ive done very well with that kind of approach so far......then again I havent been in a LTR for a while.

It has worked out great for me, then again I havent been in a LTR ever since...

 

[Vice]

Never pass up an opportunity to keep your mouth shut.

And if you're SHOWING her that you like her by asking her out, kissing, and having sex with her, wouldn't TELLING her that you like her be REDUNDANT anyway?

 

[thegamedontwait]

Well would it be redundant if she only ****ed with you and never told you she liked her?

The way, I see it is that if you have to "learn" things such as "never tell(ing) your girl you like her" if you feel like doing so, then you're not being a "man" who does whatever he choses to do (blabla).

Get the idea? I feel that just being manly is the way to go, if you have to overanalyze and adjust every detail of your behaviour to keep a chick then you're not really a "Don Juan", then you're just being played in the worst way possible, and you definitely are her little *****

 

[Byezbozhniy]

You're wasting your time by thinking about this so much. Of course you can tell a girl you like her as long as it's not coming across as desperate and needy.

This isn't just applicable with LTRs. I do it with girls I meet for the first time. As long as attraction, rapport and interest is there, you can pretty much do or say anything. In fact, it's even a good way to be direct.

Take this situation.

You open a set. You've built rapport. The girls you meet are sitting with you and your guy friends. You're sitting next to your target and escalating kino. You isolate the target and phase shift. Now you're not throwing any negs or getting her to validate herself. You know she's attracted to you. You can enhance that by saying something like, "Society is so strange with its rules and etiquette, isn't it? It's all bullsh1t. Listen, I like you, and now I'm going to kiss you." Then you k-close.

EDIT: For good measure, before the 'society is so strange' remark, throw some Ross Jeffries NLP stuff in. Or Strauss' tips on talking about how attraction works in different animals.

After being alpha male all night and building attraction, you're giving some power back to the girl, and she'll appreciate it. If she senses you've been 'gaming' her beforehand, she'll now feel more convinced that you actually like her. It'll build a stronger bond between you.

It goes without saying that you should not take this too far and turn into a slushy pvssy.

 

[thegamedontwait]

I'm not thinking about it too much. I havent thought a bout this for like 4 years, because of not being on here..then i sign back in after a couple years and one of the first things I read is overanalysis of how you can't tell a girl you like her EVER (look at the "... gone sour" post or s omething where everyone's like you can NEVER say that to a girl).

EDIT: For good measure, before the 'society is so strange' remark, throw some Ross Jeffries NLP stuff in for good measure. Or Strauss' tips on talking about how attraction works in different animals.

This is the kind of overanalysis stuff, I mean, btw ;-). JUST KIDDING LOL.

Interesting ideas, though...I think If I tell a girl I like her, I really dont think it'd be a problem to tell her b/c id do stuff like you suggest quite naturally..sorta like telling her I like her, but then having to grin and say something like "This doesn't mean your azz won't get spanked and ****ed good tonight ;-)"

 

[Warrior74]

Good question. I think it depends on the girl and what stage you're at in the relationship. .

Needy girls are gonna want to hear it alot.
girls who aren't girlfriend material (club slvts, *****s) probably won't believe you
jaded girls who have been played a few times probably don't want to hear it, they want to see it.

As many reasons as there are women innit?

My current girl. I've been dating about 6 months, probably complimented her 3-4 times tops on her looks, told her how much I like having sex with her a couple of times (usually in bed), and have mentioned once how I like chilling with her. But I know, and she knows, that she has really low self esteem. Too much praise comes off as bull****/ass kissing to her, none at all makes her just feel used. Your mileage may vary.

 

[Vice]

Holy piss. Pickup jargon. It should be banned.

Stop being a b*tch and worry about more important things. If she's receptive to your advances, then SHE LIKES YOU.

And there's nothing wrong with learning behaviors that WORK, especially if you don't know any better. That, my friend, is the process of LEARNING FROM OTHER PEOPLE'S MISTAKES.