Meccamputechture
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I really need to know how.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Jumping ahead, aren't ya? Cart before the horse sorta thing?Meccamputechture said:I really need to know how.
insidious said:Jumping ahead, aren't ya? Cart before the horse sorta thing?
Don't you wanna meet chicks first?
If getting laid is your only concern, there are these chicks called prostitutes and they serve only to lay you. Great concept.
I understand what you're saying. The problem is I don't know how to "hit" on girls. Well, without looking like a complete spaz.dude you can find stuff on how to pick up chicks EVERYWHERE these days ASF, GWM, DD, MM it goes on and on, all that matters is that your GOING OUT and applying what you've been reading thats THE ONLY WAY TO GET GOOD at laying chicks theres no way around it you got to get your ass out the house, even if you know nothing and your just hitting on chicks anyway you would still get laid eventully.
Meccamputechture said:I understand what you're saying. The problem is I don't know how to "hit" on girls. Well, without looking like a complete spaz.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
this guy wants adivce and help to IMPROVE his life and all you are offreing is negitivety, why say anything AT ALL.absolut honesty said:why don't you hit on other trolls then, its very unlikely u can get a date outside of your own kind
this site is for serious people, not dolbayebi like you
If it's that simple than what's the point of this board? Can you at least throw me a bone? I know it's awkward can I can see it in their face, in the tone of their voice.flows101 said:the only way to learn is by your MISTAKES you CAN NOT learn if you do not make MISTAKES. Did anyone ever say "you look like a complete spaz when you hit on chicks" i doubt it, why becuse its all in your HEAD.
THE ONLY WAY TO KNOW HOW TO HIT ON CHICKS IS TO HIT ON THEM.
thats hilarious, hahaha :crackup:insidious said:Jumping ahead, aren't ya? Cart before the horse sorta thing?
Don't you wanna meet chicks first?
If getting laid is your only concern, there are these chicks called prostitutes and they serve only to lay you. Great concept.
the point of the this board is because we as men love to THINK and ANYLIZE to muchMeccamputechture said:If it's that simple than what's the point of this board? Can you at least throw me a bone? I know it's awkward can I can see it in their face, in the tone of their voice.
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
flows101 said:this guy wants adivce and help to IMPROVE his life and all you are offreing is negitivety, why say anything AT ALL.
Awesome man, I'll check out the bible. Thankscomic_relief said:thats hilarious, hahaha :crackup:
I don't read that sh!t, but just read the DJ bible. It has everything that you are going to need. http://www.jbspencer.com/djb/
just read through that, and then realize that it will take a while. look at maybe 6 months or more for you to get everything down. It may sound bad, but in reality if you can conquer your AFC (average frustrated chump) tendencies. your life will be much better and you will become a king within your domain.
Before I was here, I did nothing else but play baseball.
Since I got here, I went to the Pennsylvania Governor School for Teaching, FCCLA National Conference in Nashville, TN, and am going to a well respected university. It is totally worth it to actually get rid of the AFC tendencies and become a DJ. That way, you attract the high self-esteem (HSE) girls (suprisingly there are HSE girls out there that aren't human sea cows).
Get the attitude down before you go after girls. If you do that, it won't even become work anymore, but just fun play.
comic_relief
"Hit on" is pretty vague as a verb. I know how to talk to a girl, but you see other guys that'll talk about very stupid, and the girls love it. I can't just ask about what they do, how's the weather. There is some sort of ethic for it.flows101 said:the point of the this board is because we as men love to THINK and ANYLIZE to much
if it's awkward for you it will be awkward for them, why because you will act awkward, but the ONLY way to get comfortable with hiting on chicks is to keep hiting on them. Useing the feed back you get from each interaction to better the next interaction.
Meccamputechture said:I really need to know how.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.