"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you say these things....???

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Hey guys,

Recently got back together with someone, we were too intense and recognised that we were starting to resent each other so we took a chill pill for a few weeks and are back seeing each other but less and its really cool.

BUT she has been saying things such as miss you and thinking about you in messages, how does a guy remain masculine but reciprocate these...can a guy ever say them if she doesnt initate????


Thoughts???
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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RJ, you may also benefit from reading Dr. Paul Dobransky's Mind OS and Mature Masculine Power.
Remember, that its about being grounded in your own reality.
Solid, and firm.
Maintaining your values.

And its perfectly OK to feel your emotions and share them with your partner.

You have to get to a point where you dont feel so self conscious when being vulnerable like this. You need to get to a place where you dont collapse into your emotions, be they positive or negative.
Keep balance and proper perspective.
Sometimes you DONT have to SAY much. And you can do just fine with showing her.
Women want to see evidence of your affection for her.

I know many women dont care too much about men's feelings, but that cannot change your view on how you need to value your emotions and experiences. And that you deserve to be with someone that respects them, and if they dont, you simply dont stay with them.

Good luck.
Keep me posted.
 
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Charm&Style said:
Her: i miss you

You: I dont blame you
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this just doesnt work in a relationship and it can only be used once, then what? you will have no choice but to say you miss her if thats how you feel, if not then you can say whatever u want lol
 
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the point of my post is that you're over thinking the situation. You are with her, say what you want. I am not advocating that you turn into an afc, like most guys who get into a relationship. If you truly miss her, take her out and show it or at the right time let her know.

The less you use affection the more it will mean to her. Guys who used to bust balls on a chick which initially got them attracted to them do a 180 and become some super wuss once they're in a relationship which at the end leads them to this site asking "what should i do...i want to keep her".
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Charm&Style said:
The less you use affection the more it will mean to her. Guys who used to bust balls on a chick which initially got them attracted to them do a 180 and become some super wuss once they're in a relationship which at the end leads them to this site asking "what should i do...i want to keep her".
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This happens all the time. A day or two ago there was a post here by some guy who had done exactly that. If something is working, you keep doing it.
 
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