"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can you review my pof profile.

seagula

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I'm really bad at opening messages normally everyone unless they view me first gets ignored. Once it gets going a little bit it's fairly easy for me to get a number although I usually just get bored and trash it.

Before I deactivated it a month ago, I got one number I was like meh last girl on this site I'm dealing with. Low and behold she came and saw me and already said she had to hangout with me til 6. "Duh U know where I took it" lol

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=45464103

So if it got me laid at least before I might as well make it again and improve upon it. Any tips for my profile ? :)
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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TillTheEndOfTime

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seagula said:
I'm really bad at opening messages normally everyone unless they view me first gets ignored. Once it gets going a little bit it's fairly easy for me to get a number although I usually just get bored and trash it.

Before I deactivated it a month ago, I got one number I was like meh last girl on this site I'm dealing with. Low and behold she came and saw me and already said she had to hangout with me til 6. "Duh U know where I took it" lol

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=45464103

So if it got me laid at least before I might as well make it again and improve upon it. Any tips for my profile ? :)
Ditch the 2nd and 4th picture.
 

betheman

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flower girl? the whole thing is wrong man. a guy in a photo taking pics of himself is wrong!!!!
 

sylvester the cat

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lol @ flowergirl....I know we're supposed to act disinterested but isn't this going a little too far? lol.
 

Iceberg

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ScottMustaine said:
Fake smiles dude, fix that hair, and the **** with contrasty pictures?
Agreed. What's up with taking pictures of yourself with that big fake grin?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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lol stop uploading self taken pictures.

do you even lift?
 

seagula

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Yeah I lift I used to only be like 110lbs aiming for at least 160!! Which sucks because recently noticed no matter what I eat I have to take beta glucans + msm in order to properly metabolise food/gain weight. Have to agree with you my smile was a bit large & it usually is :)

Picture with shades I should've known better.

And girls like fauxhawks!
 

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you need more masculine gestures , you look beta in these photos for some one in 29
have more angry pics
 

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Girls are so easy on this site I don't have this best pictures just talk a mix of some normal/random **** then throw in some sexual innuendos here and there. Get her back to your place turn on a boring ass movie turn off the ac take your shirt off. (Really not a big deal to get laid is always my idea)

Approaching in real life is my biggest downfall, online dating gives me ego/confidence boost which in turns helps a lot.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Kbomb

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your pics are bad. Wear something snazzy in your profile pics and smile some.
 

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seagula said:
I'm really bad at opening messages normally everyone unless they view me first gets ignored. Once it gets going a little bit it's fairly easy for me to get a number although I usually just get bored and trash it.

Before I deactivated it a month ago, I got one number I was like meh last girl on this site I'm dealing with. Low and behold she came and saw me and already said she had to hangout with me til 6. "Duh U know where I took it" lol

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=45464103

So if it got me laid at least before I might as well make it again and improve upon it. Any tips for my profile ? :)

Get rid of the smiling picture. (Trust me it doesn't make much of a difference.) The other two are fine...BUT

***Put up pictures from your Facebook. Your best pictures of you doing activities or out with friends. (Copy and save them on your desktop then add them on POF.)

Email me your username and password. When I get a chance I'll update your profile in like two minutes and spam out to the best looking chicks in your area.

It doesn't matter how good they look on there. They're all fvcked up. No matter where they live etc.

You seem like just because some chick looks good on there she's some sort of "prize" to be won and IF you got a response, number and meet you'd start catching feelings. You simply CANNOT do that with chicks who resort to online dating or you will find yourself in some pretty messed up situations.

POF is a gathering place for damaged chicks to look for the "one" while offering nothing, putting utter BS in ALL of their profiles while riding the c0ck carosel till the "ultimate man" comes to rescue them from themselves.

POF is nothing more than looking for a chick to date by searching an online catalog of known alcoholics, bisexuals, convicts, women with kids and multiple tattoos, mental issues etc. You should only be using it to practice talking to all kinds of chicks and pump and dumping the best looking ones.

If you go on there with the mentality of the "hawt" chick I'm going to catch feelings for....You are going to be in a world of problems.

Some dudes talk about POF because they're bitter about not being able to get replies. Others get replies like crazy, meets, pump and dumps or some even date these chicks. And it never ends on how fvcked up the chicks are who reside on that site. You have been warned.
 

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Naughty Ninja said:
Get rid of the smiling picture. (Trust me it doesn't make much of a difference.) The other two are fine...BUT

***Put up pictures from your Facebook. Your best pictures of you doing activities or out with friends. (Copy and save them on your desktop then add them on POF.)

Email me your username and password. When I get a chance I'll update your profile in like two minutes and spam out to the best looking chicks in your area.

It doesn't matter how good they look on there. They're all fvcked up. No matter where they live etc.

You seem like just because some chick looks good on there she's some sort of "prize" to be won and IF you got a response, number and meet you'd start catching feelings. You simply CANNOT do that with chicks who resort to online dating or you will find yourself in some pretty messed up situations.

POF is a gathering place for damaged chicks to look for the "one" while offering nothing, putting utter BS in ALL of their profiles while riding the c0ck carosel till the "ultimate man" comes to rescue them from themselves.

POF is nothing more than looking for a chick to date by searching an online catalog of known alcoholics, bisexuals, convicts, women with kids and multiple tattoos, mental issues etc. You should only be using it to practice talking to all kinds of chicks and pump and dumping the best looking ones.

If you go on there with the mentality of the "hawt" chick I'm going to catch feelings for....You are going to be in a world of problems.

Some dudes talk about POF because they're bitter about not being able to get replies. Others get replies like crazy, meets, pump and dumps or some even date these chicks. And it never ends on how fvcked up the chicks are who reside on that site. You have been warned.

^^^
If this don't get you off that site, nuttin will!
 

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seagula, take Naughty Ninja's advice. Then post your results.
 

seagula

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I know that is true Vlad I've run into that & more lol. But woman are just as crazy in real life u know :)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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some general remark since it hasnt been mentioned yet i guess: self taken pics make you look like you got no friends who would take them for you. so get rid of those.

either use an autotimer or ask someone (why not a cute girl on the street?). professional pics might come across as trying too hard, but if they are good and you look hot, chics will hope you are desperate. activities and/or puppies are good, but not necessary. dont look in camera directly and do not smile too much. a smile makes them like you, a cool and distant look on your face makes them wanna be focked by you. your choice.

but you are in good hands with ninja anyways. good luck.
 

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this site is starting to suck I ran the ol faithful click meet me script on 10k users 100 messages to me later all fat chicks!! If I was into banging fat chicks id be rolling...

Only one semi cute black girl.
 

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Your default picture actually makes me think "Y so serious?"

I'd change it to the second one.

-Scars
 

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seagula said:
I'm really bad at opening messages normally everyone unless they view me first gets ignored. Once it gets going a little bit it's fairly easy for me to get a number although I usually just get bored and trash it.

Before I deactivated it a month ago, I got one number I was like meh last girl on this site I'm dealing with. Low and behold she came and saw me and already said she had to hangout with me til 6. "Duh U know where I took it" lol

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=45464103

So if it got me laid at least before I might as well make it again and improve upon it. Any tips for my profile ? :)

First you need a better about me. Solo self taken pics scream "Loser"
The angry constipated look makes you look mean or creepy.
Don't use a pet in your self pics.
Have someone take pics for you in a social seting with some friends.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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