"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can you really change by thinking different?

SayWhat

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Hi

I've heard a lot about the phrase "as you think you shall become". I've been in a negative thinking pattern for over 4 years and things get worse and worse, but I'm not sure thinking different will change it. I'm prepared to try it, but I want to know if it will help as I also believe thinking about your problems can discover the underlying problem.

It will also be hard, although thinking negative might have negative consequences, it's much much easier to think negative than positive. It also feels 'better' at that moment...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Yes you can. You just need to build a positive thinking pattern. Have you looked into "hypnotherapy" ? You need to start by digging into the roots of your negative thinking pattern (this is what a good hypnotherapist does) and build up a positive thinking pattern from there.

We all have the ability to be positive. The problem is a judgemental high expectation society that we live in. We all tend to get put down easily by others unless we can think outside how we've "been taught" to think...
 

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SayWhat said:
I've heard a lot about the phrase "as you think you shall become". I've been in a negative thinking pattern for over 4 years and things get worse and worse, but I'm not sure thinking different will change it..
The actions are a reflection of your thoughts just like habbits are a reflection of your actions.
If your thoughts are preventing you from acting, you don’t act and this will only create a breeding grond for your negative thoughts to grow and reinforce themselves. You create a negative loop without even being aware of it. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy that feeds itself from your thoughts. Betaness stems from negative thinking like “I can’t do {some action} because {insert rationalization}”.
How you perceive oyur self determines who you are, hence “As you think you shall become”. If it works or not it’s entirely up to you. Force yourself to think positive instead of letting negative thoughts take over.
Best of luck, mate.
 

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I dont know if you remember my thread from a few days ago (kind of sad, depressed a little bit and just feeling negative in general) but yes changing your thinking can really make you a better person

Im in the phase of trying to stop thinking at all, and when I do, I do it positively. needless to say, Its having a good effect on me. I recommend you to stop thinking negatively because it's really helping me.. and I started doing it yesterday!! :)
 

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Yeah of course you could. You can do anything you put your mind to.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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And is also possible to think of a result and then the steps will automatically happen?

Let's say I want to buy a beautiful house and I imagine it, constantly think about, etc... Will the events in my life guide me in this direction?

I'm not really a religious person, but it seems to work for the negative thoughts, perhaps also for the positive ones?
 

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Say what you think and do as you say.

You can change your mindset, if you can change your actions.
 

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if you think negatively, youll keep repeating the cycle and you wont even try to improve yourself and the house you have in mind well be far away. but if you think positively, youd improve yourself and actually try to bring said house closer to your reach. it all depends on you in the end. things wont come your way out of nowhere. you have to work for it.
 

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Just remember that what you think about yourself is strongly influenced from the environment you live in and from the people you attend.

I swear, the same moment I left home, my parents and my peer group and all the sh1t they were throwing at me to start fresh in a new place, the world around me changed.

No more negging, insulting or bashing my self esteem and finally freedom to succeed or fail only according my abilities.

So even before start thinking positively which is necessary and helpful, you need to get rid of anything that would drag you back into negativity.
 

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Start thinking positively and the whole world will change, and everything seems easy.
Worked well for me to try not thinking and instead start doing things. The more things I physically do the better I feel, and the better I feel the more positive my thoughts become. You simply won't have time to sit down and think negatively.

Thinking about your problems when you're negative doesn't work, get a positive attitude before doing so. Even then just identify your mistake and forget the rest, and if you don't figure it out in a reasonable amount of time just forget it all and move on.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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