huskybear said:
That was a good post about staying in control. Getting control is fundamental. As for the other guys in here. Words are just words. I dont care how tough talking you may sound----a break up can bring the strongest man to his needs.
Actions speak louder than words.
I can understand how people do lose control.
I can understand the frustrations. It is tough, I know it was tough for me too. But how do you think the guys who came here with their heart ripped apart dealt with it? It is the exact same wisdom that we are trying to give you. You can't just do it overnight. Look at the experienced guys. They have came here for a very long time too. What you're looking for is a magic pill that doesn't exist. You have to take control now. one of the first thing is to write out all your thoughts in a piece of paper and burn it. or just keep writing and burn the whole book after you're done. Because all that pent up feelings aren't going to go away if you won't release it. That's how you release it... one step at a time.
when that feeling dies down, it's like a fire that needs to rebuild. That's when you know you've moved on. when you're ready to reignite everything.
Everyone tells you to move on because through their experiences and having gone through the pain, they look back and thought about how much time they've wasted in going in circles in the past and advise you not to go the same route. This is a good thing because it tells you that you should really start moving on as soon as possible and not dwell in the past because life is short. Some dwell for years and years and they look back and think about how much time has wasted.
I know a lot of people advise things that is straight out of the books they've read. The DJBible is totally different. It's realtime, real live experiences accumulated from a lot of real smart people. Who do you trust? People who'd been through the pain and are now doing better and willing to give back to the community for free? Or you trust someone who are selling you ideas and making millions through self help books? Your choice.
All I'm really saying is, take the time to heal soldier. There will be another tomorrow to fight the battle.
