Can you give me some quick advice on this one?

[ryanbo29]

Hey guys...

About 3 weeks ago I met a girl from online.. she's absolutely gorgeous.. I have noticed she has some self-esteem because she asked why I wouldn't meet her, etc..

Anyhow.. on the second date wehad sex (a friday).. On Tuesday she called me (after no contact) and practically asked me out.. We went out Friday and did it again.. please stay with me.. so anyway.. we talk -a little-, but not much online.. and she asked me out on Wednesday.. we went out, and she stayed over, but no sex. She said it was 'that time of the month'. After that, she forwarded me an article from a site we both like that mentioned how having sex early on is a bad thing (I wondered if she was trying to send me a hint.)

Anyhow, when do you guys think I should ask her out? Going out on a Wednesday throws off the schedule. I hate asking her out on a Sunday, but Fri or Sat seems soonish after a Wednesday date. Am I right?

Please help.. I have to decide whether to call or make a date soon.

Thank you!

Ryan

 

[MakeItSo]

Dude, do the date whenever you want too. Instead of playing some stupid "rules of dating" game, you should find a time when you're both available and take her to have a good time.

Go do something you can both enjoy, and make the most of your time together. Take her to a dance lesson, go for a walk in the park if you can sneak it in, cook for her. Make her appreciate you by subtley appreciating her. Don't be corny, don't be copywritten. Chances are she's seen it all.

take her for lunch. As long as you have something to talk about, a short date can be awesome. Most of all, always make sure you're both having fun. That's what's gonna the difference between you and the rest of the fish in the pond.

Good luck with your hottie!

PS: If you're not confident, which you should be, you could try letting her set the pace, but sometimes that doesn't work. Pay attention to her responses, and make sure you're not all too ready to give up a lot just to spend some time with her. Try and make her see the man you are. As long as she idolizes in a "safe" way, then she'll never see any reason why she can't have a good time with you.

 

[ryanbo29]

Agreed, but we have to admit that at some level, the frequency of dating matters.. and that's something I'd like to get an opinion on... We went out Wednesday night.. when shall we go out again..

Thanks for your answer.. any others?

 

[ryanbo29]

Cmon guys.. i need some advice very quick.. so many views and only one reply...

We went out Wednesday.. (she asked me out).. its time for the 5th date.. when should we go out?

Thanks!

 

[flexion_]

You had sex - she is interested. Ask her out whenever you want... geez.

Stop thinking of dates and ask her to come along with you in your fun life. If you have something fun you are doing in your life and want her to come along then just ask her - its doesn't matter how many days have passed.

 

[car501]

Originally posted by ryanbo29
Hey guys...


Anyhow.. on the second date wehad sex (a friday).. On Tuesday she called me (after no contact) and practically asked me out.. We went out Friday and did it again.. please stay with me.. so anyway.. we talk -a little-, but not much online.. and she asked me out on Wednesday.. we went out, and she stayed over, but no sex. She said it was 'that time of the month'. After that, she forwarded me an article from a site we both like that mentioned how having sex early on is a bad thing (I wondered if she was trying to send me a hint.)

She had sex with you twice and then she sends you an article about having sex early on is a bad thing. Hum, I smell a playa here. If you have been having sex and shes been the one to start things, even if she wasn't, that would make me think twice about how stable this chick is. Just something you should consider.
About asking her out, if you want to, just do it. But if she's sending you articles about the sex issue, it looks to me that she's now trying to put up barriers/conditions.Good Luck..

 

[Wyldfire]

She sounds a little afraid that because she had sex with you so soon that things won't go any further...which implies she would like them to go further.

The best way to deal with this would be to not have sex with her on every other date, or every third date...whatever. Since she seems to want to see you often, then have ever other date be hanging out doing something cheap or free and fun and don't pursue sex with her on those "dates" all the time. Let her think there is more to things than just sex and she will forget all about that article.

See her as often as you want to see her as long as she wants that. Just keep some of the "dates" really low key and casual.

 

[stalluproar]

Sounds like she is trying to control the relationship. The first reason I believe this is it seems everyday she asks you out, you are available and agree to see her. Second, she sends you an article, because she probably has lost the attraction she once had and if you react the way she thinks you will, she has an easy out. I think agreeing to see her every time she asks you out is a little bit of a push over and not in charge. Remember, females want a guy who can take charge. Don't let her take charge.

 

[penkitten]

Originally posted by stalluproar
Sounds like she is trying to control the relationship. The first reason I believe this is it seems everyday she asks you out, you are available and agree to see her. Second, she sends you an article, because she probably has lost the attraction she once had and if you react the way she thinks you will, she has an easy out. I think agreeing to see her every time she asks you out is a little bit of a push over and not in charge. Remember, females want a guy who can take charge. Don't let her take charge.

i dont see this as her trying to control anything
it seems to me that she is afraid that since she slept with him so soon that he wont respect her.