Can you fake it?

[ken chang]

Damn, is female intuition real?!

I have a friend who likes to talk a good game. We will call him Fatty. He likes to brag about his sexual adventures or his cute ex-girlfriends to the women here at work.

One time a friend girl of mine(we will call her Chubby)asked me out for coffee and I asked if we should bring Fatty along since he's a mutual friend.

Chubby says,"Nah! He's so fake. He talks about all the stuff he's done with girls but none of it is real."

Different situation:

My kid brother(we will call him Ryu)is new to the GAME. But I have shown him some things so that he doesn't have to learn the hard way like I did and avoid a lot of heartache.

Ryu goes after this girl. He tries to FAKE all the confidence(with zero experience) and later he is surprised when his new buddies ask him,"Dude, is this your 1st time to court a girl?"

How do you not let a girl know that she has more experience than you?

BTW, Ryu is resistant. I've pointed him to the DJ bible but he says he still believes in true love and happy endings. Is heartbreaking experience the only way to convince him?

 

[sharkbeat]

No, you can't -- but do it anyway.

People here keep on saying "fake it till you make it". There's a bit of truth in there, but the reality is that some people can see it that you are faking the whole crap. Some others keep it quiet, laugh behind your back, the others will tell it blunt right there in your face. Your reaction to that, of course, will show how fake your confidence is.

Women intuition is fine tuned due to years of socializing with other women, and approached by hordes of men. Us men, we spent our days doing things which usually doesn't involve talking to other people much -- such as tinkering with technology, pondering how to add more horsepower to your 1000-hp honda civics, how to get the most money out of the stock market, or reading sosuave posts about how to get more girls.

It is called social intuition. You can tell how confident a person is just by looking at his eyes, facial expressions, and how he walks, talks, and quacks. This is why women already know that you approach because you want to fvck them. She subconciously decides if you are worthy of fvcking her by giving you **** tests. This is all non-verbal communication. This is why "No" could mean "Yes" depending on how she says it. Look at women magazines, it's all there. "How to tell he's lying!" "How to tell he enjoys sex" "Why he's not calling" "How to tell this and that"

You can get also social intuition too once you talk to a lot of people -- not just friends you know, but also strangers that think differently than you do.

 

[Warrior74]

Fake it until you make it. It's better to fake it and try until it becomes second nature, than to do nothing and not try. I remember when I started back in the game, I would completely overdress for events and flirted to hard...I got a try hard reputation for a while. Then I learned to dial it down....you just have to dress one notch better than everyone and make your flirting subtle but not too much so. It just takes time to calibrate.

 

[zekko]

Fake it until you make it. It's better to fake it and try until it becomes second nature, than to do nothing and not try.

You HAVE to fake it. At least until you make it. What else can you do?

 

[Zarky]

Tip to seduce women: don't suck at lying.

 

[penkitten]

sure... you can totally fake it.
who the hell would call your bluff?

 

[Jeffst1980]

No, you can't -- but do it anyway.

People here keep on saying "fake it till you make it". There's a bit of truth in there, but the reality is that some people can see it that you are faking the whole crap. Some others keep it quiet, laugh behind your back, the others will tell it blunt right there in your face. Your reaction to that, of course, will show how fake your confidence is.

Women intuition is fine tuned due to years of socializing with other women, and approached by hordes of men. Us men, we spent our days doing things which usually doesn't involve talking to other people much -- such as tinkering with technology, pondering how to add more horsepower to your 1000-hp honda civics, how to get the most money out of the stock market, or reading sosuave posts about how to get more girls.

It is called social intuition. You can tell how confident a person is just by looking at his eyes, facial expressions, and how he walks, talks, and quacks. This is why women already know that you approach because you want to fvck them. She subconciously decides if you are worthy of fvcking her by giving you **** tests. This is all non-verbal communication. This is why "No" could mean "Yes" depending on how she says it. Look at women magazines, it's all there. "How to tell he's lying!" "How to tell he enjoys sex" "Why he's not calling" "How to tell this and that"

You can get also social intuition too once you talk to a lot of people -- not just friends you know, but also strangers that think differently than you do.

^^^^Bingo. This all comes from experience. Starting out, you DO have to fake it a bit, and that's why you shouldnt expect results right away. Your first few meetings with women are going to be extremely awkward, but it's ok.

Girls are attracted to guys with experience with girls, and this is a catch 22 for a guy with limited experience. However, overcompensating by bragging about your conquests is extremely transparent. It's better when starting out to reveal as little about yourself as possible.

 

[Warrior74]

^^^^Bingo. This all comes from experience. Starting out, you DO have to fake it a bit, and that's why you shouldnt expect results right away. Your first few meetings with women are going to be extremely awkward, but it's ok.

Girls are attracted to guys with experience with girls, and this is a catch 22 for a guy with limited experience. However, overcompensating by bragging about your conquests is extremely transparent. It's better when starting out to reveal as little about yourself as possible.

This also goes to the theory of Starter Girls (thanks Player Supreme). Yah you want 9s, but guess what? A nine probably can tell your lack of confidence...so you start out with 5's and 6's and grow your social and sexual confidence and build on that. A lot of guys buy into the hype and think they can just stroll in and start bagging 10s after reading the dj bible. Sometimes, for some people, they have to work their way up the ladder.

 

[DJ SO STEVE]

There are some girls out there that like guys with no experience. It makes them want to break that person in. I would say 1-2 of 10 girls would like this scenario. The older the women the less they would deal with someone with no experience. Like a 40 year old virgin for example.

 

[ken chang]

Sharkybear, Warrior74, Zekko, Zarky, Penkitten, Jeffst1980, DJ SO STEVE, all great advice. Thank you.

But I have no intention of helping Fatty. I'm not selfish. It's just that he's an AMOG, a backstabber, a gossip, and a pu$$y worshipper. And I am sick to my stomach of dishonorable men like that. They're worse than the women.

 

[ken chang]

This also goes to the theory of Starter Girls (thanks Player Supreme). Yah you want 9s, but guess what? A nine probably can tell your lack of confidence...so you start out with 5's and 6's and grow your social and sexual confidence and build on that. A lot of guys buy into the hype and think they can just stroll in and start bagging 10s after reading the dj bible. Sometimes, for some people, they have to work their way up the ladder.

I like this theory and totally agree with it. I had only recently started applying it to my game.