"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Can you do one armed pushups?

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I can still do so with my Right arm, never could with my left arm, but I'm working on it, using dumbells. :) I turn my body sideways to do the 1 armed pushup. My Korean instructor could do one armed pushups with his arm held sideways across his chest. In other words, he'd position his right palm in front of his LEFT shoulder, chest towards the ground.

the real deal fitness thing, tho, is 1 armed CHINUPS, with either arm. Not one man in 20,000 can do that.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Haven't done any one arm chin ups yet, this is the next goal.
I tried to do simply hang by one arm the other day, and almost ripped my shoulder ligaments. Was sore for 3 days.

Of course, I'm too damn fat, but nonetheless.
 

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that's what the test is about. arm strength relative to body weight
 

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I tried to do simply hang by one arm the other day, and almost ripped my shoulder ligaments. Was sore for 3 days.

Of course, I'm too damn fat, but nonetheless.
Try with a thorough full body warmup. I feel the same if I just walk up to a pullup bar, feels like my shoulder's being ripped out. But if I go rock climbing, during a session I can easily hang on one arm after a jump. I attribute it to warm up and good form. Core must be tight so you hang on your muscles and not the ligaments.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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