"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Can you become a don juan just by looks?
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Being a Don Juan, I hope you’re aware of is more than just looks. You have to cultivate a solid inner game frame.
You should have your financial house in order. If not work harder at that.
Know what your SMV is at and aim in that area until you get a few plates spinning.
What are your sticking points? List those if you want more feedback than what is already stated often here.
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'Oh I need to look like a actor or be naturally handsome, etc.' - I think is a small factor compared to other 'look' factors.
Posture is huge. Shoulders up and back (not overly so). Head up, eyes up, chin up. Apparently can change rating by +2 out of 10. I notice it on girls as well, posture can change my outlook fast.
Cleanliness, taking care of your hair (head, facial), clothes are appropriate and fair fitting (vs raggy or dirty) - another huge one. Smelling clean (massive negative if not). Cologne not necessary (but can be a bonus if a light pleasant smell).
That's probably 60% of it right there.
For me, overweight can kill attraction. Some hold weight better than others, can even look good - but I see many an example where people can not look 'fresh' (like skin oily, and such)... And not saying skinny as a rail either or perfection. There's a definite fair range that is good.
People can define plenty of personality traits just from your looks alone. But the looks I feel most people think of (actor looks), and the looks that are most impactful (posture, cleanliness, fitness) are quite different. Because those last three - is how someone can define how healthy they are mentally, as well as the physical. It's self-evident, self-proving, and lends credibility towards saying that person has their **** together.
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Not to use myself as an example... but I was minorly overweight a few months back. Same weight as now, except fat --> muscle. I'm not talking huge, but I have shape now (vs a small bit before around my stomach). Started keeping my head shaved and well kept (vs balding pattern). This is where I think the biggest impact was (hair). So now I'm well kept, and visually 'clean'. Also helps confidence level.
Totally radical difference in approach by both men and women. Making friends much easier, flirtation by women, etc. It is not everything at all. But it helps your inner self as well.
