@izza-I dont know if youre encouraging me to trust my gut and just go and ask her or go with my gut and just move on. I dont see how I'm trying to control anyone by wanting to go out with them. I fully understand its either going to happen or its not and that I'm good either way.
Exactly, I can't tell you what your gut says. I'm not in your body. But I think it will tell you either one or the other
To me, your question sounded like "I want to do this but am I trying to hard? It's against SoSuave's rules." I think if you have checked in carefully with yourself, you will know if you're doing this out of desperation. If not, just go for it. The point of dating is to have fun and do what we want in an ethical way.
I think a lot of people on this forum will just automatically react out of fear and say you shouldn't call her, you shouldn't do this and that, even if you want to, even if it's fun, even if it feels right. I see the goal of all this as getting in touch with your inner compass.
That's why I was talking about controlling people. Having compassion is one thing. But it sounds to me like you're wondering "will going to her house scare this girl off." You can't control what she does. Trying to calculate how she will react is attempting to control her. But how can you know how she'll react? You can't - anyway, what counts is what feels right to you. Trying to control people means doing things that feel wrong to you because you've calculated that if you do them, people will do what you want. For example, not going to this lady's house because you've calculated that playing it cool will keep her interested. Or whatever.
These 10 other women you think you have in your pocket don't matter. Besides, you don't control them either - maybe tomorrow they will all decide they'd rather be with someone else. You should do what feels right either way.
Good luck figuring out how she'll react. You can know what you want and what feels right to you. And really, if she would leave you for doing something that feels wrong to you then I don't think you'll regret it.
Just last nite I was out with some friends and this beautiful girl from out of state just volunteered her number out of the blue and then kissed me. Its not like I have a real problem talking to or getting to know women. Its typically very easy for me. Ive met and talked to probably five or six different women just this week alone.
Great, glad you're having fun!
NSUballer said:
Seems like some of you are missing the point. I'm not needy and I have plenty of options. Lol all I was asking is would you go to a girls house to ask her out.
If it felt right, I would, if it didn't I wouldn't. But it sounds like you think it'd be fun so just go already!
