"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Can you be funny with ANY woman?

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...or do you need chemistry to really let loose? I know i'm funny, but i can't be funny around certain people, certain women. I think i have to know that i can trust the woman and the only way i can trust her is if she is mature and emotionally healthy. If i'm with a woman who is hard, sarcastic, cynical, etc, the funny vibe isn't there and CAN'T be there. I think humor relies on the atmosphere both people put out. Funny thing is when i am speaking in front of a crowd or group, the group as a whole allows me to be funny because there isn't time or opportunity to determine who is trustworthy, sarcastic, cynical, hostile, etc, so i'm able to go with a collective vibe.

How about you? Can you be funny with any woman regardless or is my experience universal?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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GtarPlayr73 said:
.... If i'm with a woman who is hard, sarcastic, cynical, etc, the funny vibe isn't there and CAN'T be there. ..
And you're concerned about hard, sarcastic, cynical women because?????
 

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DJDamage said:
The more she is attracted to you from the get go, the more she will laugh on your jokes even though they can be pretty bad.
Definite IOI, when they laugh too hard at your bad jokes.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Francisco d'Anconia said:
And you're concerned about hard, sarcastic, cynical women because?????
...you must be referring, tongue in cheek, to my recent oneitis? :whistle:
 

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...you must be referring, tongue in cheek, to my recent oneitis? :whistle:
Hey, whatever resonates with you... ;)
 

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ha, frustrated cynicism can be REALLY funny, provided there's a connection. My past oneitis is so fearful of being vulnerable that she's developed a very pushy exterior. ("Pushy" meaning pushing others away from her). Pretty much any teasing on her is taken with paranoia and ANY attempt to "get serious" for a moment and discuss her personality, etc is greeted with theatrical "wtf-are-you-talking-about?" contempt. I once asked her if she considered herself an introvert or extrovert and you would have thought i asked her for the results of her last pap smear. No exaggeration! She is so pathologically afraid of intimacy that she will do anything to keep things superficial....
 

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Women GENERALLY are attracted to funny guys, We know that, however there are some women out there who have a poor sense of humor. They often times become hypersensitive about mild C&F stuff and get all huffy about the most innocent jokes.
I had an incident late last year. The nutcase that I was dating turned up to a bar-b-que in a pair of those white pants which were only ankle length. I said ," hey, nice KARATE pants." She got all pissed and almost cried. She ranted on later about how rude and insensitive I was being - " You criticized my appearance ! " Geez - some women !
She acted as if I had eaten her children and f**cked her sister...
These kinds of women are problems- you will always be "on egg shells " around them .
 

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You are in your early 30s and I sense you lacked a masculine figure that could lead you when you were much younger. How can we explain the series of things you concern yourself with?

Humor is what YOU make of it. And it illustrates that YOU and only YOU has control over your emotional state. That's what humor does!

I tend to make women laugh. Ugly or hot, fat or sexy, young or old. I don't care. If they don't fine my off-hand remark funny...that's fine. Who cares?

You see? My charm comes natural with me. And when something is natural...I don't care which woman gets the charm or one of my off-hand funny remarks.

I NEVER approach people thinking "will she/he like me?". I always approach thinking if I would be the one liking them.

The only way to master this stuff is by getting out there an interacting with people. Especially women. As charm and funny should never be reserved solely for the women we want to lay.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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jophil28 said:
Women GENERALLY are attracted to funny guys, We know that, however there are some women out there who have a poor sense of humor. They often times become hypersensitive about mild C&F stuff and get all huffy about the most innocent jokes.
I had an incident late last year. The nutcase that I was dating turned up to a bar-b-que in a pair of those white pants which were only ankle length. I said ," hey, nice KARATE pants." She got all pissed and almost cried. She ranted on later about how rude and insensitive I was being - " You criticized my appearance ! " Geez - some women !
She acted as if I had eaten her children and f**cked her sister...
These kinds of women are problems- you will always be "on egg shells " around them .

haha.. that cracked me up!
 
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