"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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can you be a drug addict and an Alpha Male at the same time?

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A lot depends on the crowd; if drug use is Alpha or not. Or more pointedly, in some crowds women would readily reject you if they knew you used drugs, in other crowds, drug use is almost mandatory to get women.

I’m an artist and many of the people I work with professionally use drugs and alcohol on a regular basis – often as part of their work process. Socially, drug use is rampant. Although I've dabbled in many different drugs, it is only marijuana that I revisit from time to time with any regularity, here and there. Quite often when I run into people I know, marijuana is used as a friendship offering of sorts and is often used as an ice breaker.

Many times over I've gotten to know women when they or I offered to share a bowl, or a joint. It’s not much different, I suppose, than offering to buy a girl a drink, though I rarely drink. Also, marijuana has an aphrodisiac effect on many women.

My favorite scenario has been those times when I've run into a woman I knew, one I’d been flirting with and she told me she had a bud. So we ran off into the bushes, or wherever, smoked the bud that evolved into making out and beyond.

Oh, by the way, marijuana isn't really a drug but is illegal because some politicians decided to call it a drug. The way to legality has been to act like it’s a drug (medical marijuana) to soften people up to it so that it can legitimized, legalized and no longer seen as a drug.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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can you be a drug addict and an Alpha Male at the same time

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I agree with what you said, he started out as a mercenary, but he ended up actually liking her, thats what made me so confused. At first you thought, what a cad, but as time went on, they seemed so right and happy, and they had fun, plus she was always smiling so I figured he just didnt believe he had enough money to elope with her, and that would have messed up her opinion, although I dont think she would have cared at that point.

Remember, she didnt push him out the door, thats why she never answered him when he finally came back, she knew he could con her again if she saw him face to face, so she didnt even talk to him, and when I saw the movie as a grown up, I realized that and how mortified she was when he never came for her that night. It was a terrible thing to do and thats when I realized what a sh he was.

The one that really confused me was her father. Knowing none of the young men wanted anything to do with her, and he would have to pay someone eventually to marry her, which would make anyone he chose an obvious cad interested only in her money; why didnt he just let this union happen, since at least she was happy?

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Let's see.. My wife and I both smoke pot...err vape because it has no smell so we can do it in our bedroom after kids go to bed to wind down from the busy day. We occasionaly do x also, maybe 2 or 3 times a year if we don't got our kids for a night or 2 (which is really rare). We like to have shots of whiskey on the weekends too (mixing it with pop is crap, ruins it). We also play magic the gathering too. Everything in moderation. *shrugs*
 

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I have used a lot of beer, hashish, tobacco to decrease mental and emotional suffering and increase sense of fun now. It takes me down, it sucks a lot of energy and health and now I have two problems on my hand, suffering and addictions. The very best is to eat well (fresh fruit and vegetables and cooked feta/egg/fish/bird/cow) and only drink fresh water, exercise well and sunshine. Meditation and inquiry (Who am I?) to heal suffering and addictions, fall in love with your self, you are the love of your life, that is the highest happiness, an attractive woman would just be an extra bonus. If you take up drugs you will have to drop them later anyway to be the best you can be.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The question itself is irrelevant.

You can be a psychopath and still be an Alpha Male. Does that mean it's good?

Sure I've known drug addicts who can at least project being Alpha Males. Doesn't necessarily mean I would aspire to be one.

So I guess my question is why are you asking this question?
 
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