"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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can you be a drug addict and an Alpha Male at the same time?

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A lot depends on the crowd; if drug use is Alpha or not. Or more pointedly, in some crowds women would readily reject you if they knew you used drugs, in other crowds, drug use is almost mandatory to get women.

I’m an artist and many of the people I work with professionally use drugs and alcohol on a regular basis – often as part of their work process. Socially, drug use is rampant. Although I've dabbled in many different drugs, it is only marijuana that I revisit from time to time with any regularity, here and there. Quite often when I run into people I know, marijuana is used as a friendship offering of sorts and is often used as an ice breaker.

Many times over I've gotten to know women when they or I offered to share a bowl, or a joint. It’s not much different, I suppose, than offering to buy a girl a drink, though I rarely drink. Also, marijuana has an aphrodisiac effect on many women.

My favorite scenario has been those times when I've run into a woman I knew, one I’d been flirting with and she told me she had a bud. So we ran off into the bushes, or wherever, smoked the bud that evolved into making out and beyond.

Oh, by the way, marijuana isn't really a drug but is illegal because some politicians decided to call it a drug. The way to legality has been to act like it’s a drug (medical marijuana) to soften people up to it so that it can legitimized, legalized and no longer seen as a drug.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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can you be a drug addict and an Alpha Male at the same time

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I agree with what you said, he started out as a mercenary, but he ended up actually liking her, thats what made me so confused. At first you thought, what a cad, but as time went on, they seemed so right and happy, and they had fun, plus she was always smiling so I figured he just didnt believe he had enough money to elope with her, and that would have messed up her opinion, although I dont think she would have cared at that point.

Remember, she didnt push him out the door, thats why she never answered him when he finally came back, she knew he could con her again if she saw him face to face, so she didnt even talk to him, and when I saw the movie as a grown up, I realized that and how mortified she was when he never came for her that night. It was a terrible thing to do and thats when I realized what a sh he was.

The one that really confused me was her father. Knowing none of the young men wanted anything to do with her, and he would have to pay someone eventually to marry her, which would make anyone he chose an obvious cad interested only in her money; why didnt he just let this union happen, since at least she was happy?

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Let's see.. My wife and I both smoke pot...err vape because it has no smell so we can do it in our bedroom after kids go to bed to wind down from the busy day. We occasionaly do x also, maybe 2 or 3 times a year if we don't got our kids for a night or 2 (which is really rare). We like to have shots of whiskey on the weekends too (mixing it with pop is crap, ruins it). We also play magic the gathering too. Everything in moderation. *shrugs*
 

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I have used a lot of beer, hashish, tobacco to decrease mental and emotional suffering and increase sense of fun now. It takes me down, it sucks a lot of energy and health and now I have two problems on my hand, suffering and addictions. The very best is to eat well (fresh fruit and vegetables and cooked feta/egg/fish/bird/cow) and only drink fresh water, exercise well and sunshine. Meditation and inquiry (Who am I?) to heal suffering and addictions, fall in love with your self, you are the love of your life, that is the highest happiness, an attractive woman would just be an extra bonus. If you take up drugs you will have to drop them later anyway to be the best you can be.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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The question itself is irrelevant.

You can be a psychopath and still be an Alpha Male. Does that mean it's good?

Sure I've known drug addicts who can at least project being Alpha Males. Doesn't necessarily mean I would aspire to be one.

So I guess my question is why are you asking this question?
 
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