"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Can what I write here be "used against me"?

SamePendo

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Let's say I write here, or anywhere else on the internet, something like:

"...yeah! robbing a bank would be so easy, I'd do ..."

And then later on I'm accused of stealing something. Could they use what I said in an anonymous (like on sosuave) or non-anonymous (like personal emails) against me?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Julius_Seizeher

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Yes. From a legal perspective, internet forums are as "public" as renting a billboard or taking an ad in the paper.
 

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Of course. Why wouldn't they be able to?

It's just like you telling someone else, but even more concrete since they have it in writing and word for word.
 

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quixadox said:
Why wouldn't they be able to?
Because you are supposedly doing it in private? And/or in an anonymous way, and what you say is just, that, talk. It's like me saying I'm napoleon, I'm living out my fantasy but that doesn't make me eligible for being charged with mass murders.
 

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Facebook and emails have gotten people fired and arrested. In terms of anonymous, you might not be as anonymous as you think.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Yep, don't say anything on message boards that you aren't able to answer for in the future.

If you got any unsavory business or actions going on, keep it face to face and avoid writing anything down.

These days, if the cops have reason to suspect you for any crime, the first thing they do is come to your house and confiscate your PC hard drives. Down here in Oz, the cops don't even need a warrant to come into your home. All they need is reasonable suspicion, which is discretionary. I don't agree with those invasive laws, but there they are.

Last year, my neighbor was growing some baby marijuana plants out on his balcony. Not for using or selling, just as kind of a joke. Anyways, a girl who didn't like him ratted him out to the cops. The only problem was she gave the wrong address... She gave MY address. It was 10:00AM the next day, I was still asleep. Next thing I know I have two big cops standing over my bed nudging me awake and a flashlight in my eyes, telling me to wake up. They took my computer and I sat in the back of a squad car for 3 hours while they were busy figuring out that I wasn't who they were looking for. After the dust settled, my neighbor got expelled from uni and put in jail for nine days (He had incriminating text messages and numbers on his cell phone).

So yeah, no written or saved incriminating evidence is safe. Imagine if I'd had files on my computer about how to grow weed and numbers of some dealers, etc.

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I assume anything I post here can and will make it into the wrong hands. That said, nothing I do/say is incriminating unless they want to read about a washed up beer league hockey player who is trying to invent the next big thing in the energy world!

Doing stupid stuff than posting about it is ...well...stupid. Same w/ facebook. People snoop around on that so much , its disgusting.
 
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