"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Can we make friends with beautiful girls??

Fela Kuti

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Sorry if this have been discussed before. I've done some searching and nothing came out.

Is there any way to make friends with beautiful girls? Because it seems impossible without having some romantic thoughts. Or even I fall in love with her or the other way around. And then it will ruin our friendship if one of us refuse to have romantic relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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If you have romantic thoughts then you can never be proper friends and you will end up getting your feelings hurt...only way to be friends with a girl is if there is no attraction or you dated once but it didn't work out and you no longer feel that way about her. I'm sure you'd enjoy being blown off while she goes and dates other guys, too ;)
 

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Yeah, this is a problem i'm encountering right now. So the first time I talked to this girl I use C+F and all that. And I think she was (& is) interested in me. But now I don't feel the same to that girl. It's impossible now to back off and just be friends, right? Because she'll be disappointed and then left. :(
 

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Why would you want to be just friends with beautiful women? Unless your gay (not saying you are, lol) you should want to tap that a$$.

The only good thing about having beautiful women as friends is for social proof in order to pick up other women.
 

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I have friends that are beautiful girls. They are great for social proof, use as pivots, and usually good drinking buddies lol.
You should be fine as long as you remember the difference between attractive and attracted.
EDIT: If you aren't attracted to her and want to LJBF her then you should have no problems.

There was also a good article on becoming an attractive girl’s friend on sosuave.com about 2-3 months ago or so. …So check www.sosuave.com.
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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do you wanna **** the guys you watch football with? If so they arent friends
 

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Yeah there's really no point to being friends unless you find some redeeming value in keeping her as a friend. I think guys make much better friends and don't use you for an emotional tampon from time to time.

If you continue to talk to her without making any moves she'll probably lump you into friendzone, anyway- unless she's head over heels in love with you. Acting disinterested just makes her like you even more so eventually you'll have to explicitly tell her you aren't interested in her that way. Girls drop subtle hints all day but they can't take hints for crap.
 

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Depends.

If you have a girlfriend that you really love and know yourself well and know that you'd never cheat on your girlfriend or put yourself in a situation where you and your attractive friend will be alone together with alcohol present and being consumed by you both then yes its quite possibly to be just friends with a beautiful woman.

If you have no girlfriend then usually it is impossible as you and your beautiful friend will either end up fvcking at some point or you'll try to initiate fvcking her but get shot down because you are in her friend zone and she doesn't want to ruin this "special friendship bond" that you both share.

*Vomits*
 

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How about this "platonic" thing. How to create a platonic relationship?
 
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Fela Kuti said:
How about this "platonic" thing. How to create a platonic relationship?
I'm confused, do you want to be just friends or her lover? Because if you want to be "Just friends" with a girl, any guy in the world can do that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah, you can be friends with a beautiful girl as long as you don't find her attractive.
 

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Why do you want beautiful female friends??? Fk all this social proof pivot shyt.... I have yet to meet a pretty girl that I didn't want to fk. I had a group of female friends, but I wasnt really all that attracted to them and used them to learn more about hoes...
 

Fela Kuti

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SELF-MASTERY said:
Why do you want beautiful female friends??? Fk all this social proof pivot shyt.... I have yet to meet a pretty girl that I didn't want to fk. I had a group of female friends, but I wasnt really all that attracted to them and used them to learn more about hoes...
Because I don't want to be committed to her, u know. Just, you know, flirts around and talks.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Because I don't want to be committed to her, u know. Just, you know, flirts around and talks.
so, you dont want sex?????
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Fela Kuti said:
No. Come on, sex is not everything you can get from girls.
so you just want to talk and flirt.... that's it. Why are beautiful women so special to you?
 

Fela Kuti

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No, not special. It's just because I can't seem to flirt/talk with beautiful girls without having some romantic thoughts.
 
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catch 22 right there...you need more female friends in order to stop feeling romantic thoughts (oneitis) for one of them, but you need to make friends first
 
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