"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Can we make friends with beautiful girls??

Fela Kuti

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Sorry if this have been discussed before. I've done some searching and nothing came out.

Is there any way to make friends with beautiful girls? Because it seems impossible without having some romantic thoughts. Or even I fall in love with her or the other way around. And then it will ruin our friendship if one of us refuse to have romantic relationship.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you have romantic thoughts then you can never be proper friends and you will end up getting your feelings hurt...only way to be friends with a girl is if there is no attraction or you dated once but it didn't work out and you no longer feel that way about her. I'm sure you'd enjoy being blown off while she goes and dates other guys, too ;)
 

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Yeah, this is a problem i'm encountering right now. So the first time I talked to this girl I use C+F and all that. And I think she was (& is) interested in me. But now I don't feel the same to that girl. It's impossible now to back off and just be friends, right? Because she'll be disappointed and then left. :(
 

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Why would you want to be just friends with beautiful women? Unless your gay (not saying you are, lol) you should want to tap that a$$.

The only good thing about having beautiful women as friends is for social proof in order to pick up other women.
 

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I have friends that are beautiful girls. They are great for social proof, use as pivots, and usually good drinking buddies lol.
You should be fine as long as you remember the difference between attractive and attracted.
EDIT: If you aren't attracted to her and want to LJBF her then you should have no problems.

There was also a good article on becoming an attractive girl’s friend on sosuave.com about 2-3 months ago or so. …So check www.sosuave.com.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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do you wanna **** the guys you watch football with? If so they arent friends
 

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Yeah there's really no point to being friends unless you find some redeeming value in keeping her as a friend. I think guys make much better friends and don't use you for an emotional tampon from time to time.

If you continue to talk to her without making any moves she'll probably lump you into friendzone, anyway- unless she's head over heels in love with you. Acting disinterested just makes her like you even more so eventually you'll have to explicitly tell her you aren't interested in her that way. Girls drop subtle hints all day but they can't take hints for crap.
 

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Depends.

If you have a girlfriend that you really love and know yourself well and know that you'd never cheat on your girlfriend or put yourself in a situation where you and your attractive friend will be alone together with alcohol present and being consumed by you both then yes its quite possibly to be just friends with a beautiful woman.

If you have no girlfriend then usually it is impossible as you and your beautiful friend will either end up fvcking at some point or you'll try to initiate fvcking her but get shot down because you are in her friend zone and she doesn't want to ruin this "special friendship bond" that you both share.

*Vomits*
 

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How about this "platonic" thing. How to create a platonic relationship?
 
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Fela Kuti said:
How about this "platonic" thing. How to create a platonic relationship?
I'm confused, do you want to be just friends or her lover? Because if you want to be "Just friends" with a girl, any guy in the world can do that
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yeah, you can be friends with a beautiful girl as long as you don't find her attractive.
 

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Why do you want beautiful female friends??? Fk all this social proof pivot shyt.... I have yet to meet a pretty girl that I didn't want to fk. I had a group of female friends, but I wasnt really all that attracted to them and used them to learn more about hoes...
 

Fela Kuti

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SELF-MASTERY said:
Why do you want beautiful female friends??? Fk all this social proof pivot shyt.... I have yet to meet a pretty girl that I didn't want to fk. I had a group of female friends, but I wasnt really all that attracted to them and used them to learn more about hoes...
Because I don't want to be committed to her, u know. Just, you know, flirts around and talks.
 

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Fela Kuti said:
Because I don't want to be committed to her, u know. Just, you know, flirts around and talks.
so, you dont want sex?????
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Fela Kuti said:
No. Come on, sex is not everything you can get from girls.
so you just want to talk and flirt.... that's it. Why are beautiful women so special to you?
 

Fela Kuti

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No, not special. It's just because I can't seem to flirt/talk with beautiful girls without having some romantic thoughts.
 
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catch 22 right there...you need more female friends in order to stop feeling romantic thoughts (oneitis) for one of them, but you need to make friends first
 
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