Can we ever put enough emphasis on how not giving a **** is important?

[MainDroite]

This is a success story.

It happened over the course of a few months with the result being the OP getting to make out with a 8.5: the girl was NOT single. It is currently unclear where this is going, but the OP would be happy even if that's all he would ever have from her.

Although his female peers were always ready to use the adjective "cute" to describe him, the OP used to be a very shy boy around ladies of his age, unable to create any sexual tension whatsoever. He is also guilty of the following:

-stalking
-trying to "convince" girls
-submitting to controlling GF
-One-itis. Oh, one-itis.

Not even realizing what he was doing, he started playing with girls from university (the OP dresses nice but casual, makes sure people know of his weed addiction (second set of parenthesis: he does not want to hide himself), has good grades and enjoys playing guitar).
One of them was seduced in the course of 3 months with the help of this one line, spoken during a karaoke evening: "You know, you can just tell me I'm not bringing you home tonight". Unable to decipher if the OP was serious or not (he was actually CLUELESS and didn't know WHAT THE F he was doing), the girl was ensnared and very easily came to him months later.

The other girl, the 8.5, is the type of girl who isn't turned on by conversation. Never will she speak in a group of more than 3 persons. The OP has always had respect for people who, without anything of value to say, will simply shut the f up. Wise up, people: not speaking does NOT equal not being interesting. Again, totally clueless about the outcome of the whole story, the OP started chatting non-verbally with said 8.5, making weird flirty faces and whatnot. HB 8.5 responded very well and was soon leading the way with unquestionable sexual innuendos (to which her having a boyfriend put not stop at all) until she managed to isolate the OP in his own bedroom.

People, it is important for you (you = the newbies, since you veterans probably figured this out a long while ago) to realize how not giving a **** will get you laid more than ever. It releases tensions, makes the whole process that much more fun and basically makes you UNREJECTABLE.

The OP has also understood what flirting is: that is, the art of making ambiguous statements and PLANTING an idea (much like in the movie Inception) inside your target's mind. Let this idea grow. Soon, she will rape you in your own bedroom.

Okay, done. The OP hopes the read was fun.

 

[Doctrine Dark]

The read was indeed fun. And I understand your point.

I guess for me it's just hard to not care, because I've never *sighs* been laid before. Gotten close quite a few times, but no cigar. I really wish I didn't give a fukk sometimes, but it's difficult to adapt such a mindset.

Anyway, good read regardless.

 

[Cherokee]

Good post OP.

Doctrine, if you cared more about the here and now, rather than the sex, you will actually get laid.

Take a woman on an emotional roller coaster ffs, don't just talk crap and play stupid mind games.

Take her into your world, one she wants to be in all the time. Go on adventures, let her come along for the ride, be it a picnic on a cliff edge, or a road trip to somewhere she ain't been before. You need to woo a woman, entice them, show them what they're missing. ETC ETC. But never make sex the main aim, the aim should be, having an amazing time, just because you're an amazing guy.

You need to make her say in her fragile little mind "Woah, this guy is incredible..."

This is how you get girls genuinely wanting you.

 

[Doctrine Dark]

Yeah, I hear ya, man. I've been too obsessed with losing the V-card for my own good.

Before reading that, I just placed getting the vagina on the Empire State Building, but now I'm looking at things in a different perspective. Hopefully I could somehow pull it off (take a woman on an emotional roller coaster and enjoy the ride) one of these days. Thanks for the help.