Can we ever get attached to girls?

[SoSuaveDude]

Idk, but i realize that most times when we get emotionally attached to a girl, the male always receives great pain after the inevitable breakup. Now i also recently noticed that attached and needy are the same thing, correct? But doesn't a LTR woman expect you to be somewhat attached or else they feel neglected and move on. Or in comparison, do we have a better chance at keeping a girl by being apathetic no matter what? Why is it okay for them to get attached but not us, despite remaining an Alpha and not exuding AFCness? Someone care to enlighten me on this subject?

Oh...and im 18, so should i just avoid attachment at all cost, and how can i shield my emotions if i only dated like 3 girls before and am bound to eventually fall for one/some?

 

[SoSuaveDude]

bump!

 

[Groovy]

I think the trick is that you can't need a girl. But it's okay and natural to want girls, and it's great when they like you, because that is good for you, it's just a normal thing for men. It's okay to enjoy their company and all that. But imagine if she leaves you or something, if you get angry\depressed, that isn't good anymore. That's where the line has to be drawn...

I hope I helped. If someone wants to comment my post, go for it, pls.

 

[vatoloco]

"I want you but I don't need you."

I actually told this to my current GF and she liked it.

 

[LoneWolf]

i get attached fast with girls i like but in the end i know it will destroy the relationship so i have to force myself to chill out. it works too.. i was all over this one girl and mushy with her all the time. then out of the blue i met another girl (the one im seeing now) and stopped talking to her for ages and when i started coming back online she was all over me and started telling me things about her she never told me before (she wouldnt answer some of my questions before) and she calls me babe and all that. it's actually a little bigger than that. will make a thread soon about it because its quite serious.

but at the moment she thinks i am mysterious because i dissapear for a week or so and shes always asking where i am and what im doing. so being distant and not needy does really work. im trying it now with the girl im seeing cause i kind of stuffed it up .. hoping she comes flying back into my arms