Can We ask Why?

[don juan jr]

If we ask for a girl's number and they say no can we ask them why not?

Let me put it in context:

There is this girl at the gym that i used to see there regularly but not not so often. I haven't talked to her. Shes probably HB6. After i develop some rapport with her and ask for her number and she says "no" or "sorry" would it be alright to ask "well, why not?" If i just walk away it would be very awkward the next time i see her, and i've been going there for a while and developed some social proof there so switching gyms would not be an option.

 

[sexy_kuta]

nope..

they said no for a reason... u lucky u got a straight no
most girls would make up bs.. "i got a bf"

"my cell broke"
"or a fake number"
when a girl says no straight up i respect her for that..

when they say no, it means their not interested and you're wasting your time to make them interested.. simple is that.

she isnt worth it. compared to the other million girls out there

next time u see her.. just ignore the fuk out of her.. NO SMILE, NO CONTACT.

show that u got better things... dont give her any attention..no smiling!!!

 

[MagikDude]

My philosophy has been this, if she says no, just move on, because chances are she's not that interested anyway.

 

[V-Don]

No.

She will take it as a sign of desperation. Instead, think of something clever. Don't be conventional. I knew a con-man that stole everything through humor. Steal a heart though wit and charm.

I have been turned down, but I also managed to swing things around to work my way very easily. Anyways, I can move on as others have suggested. There are millions out there.

 

[don juan jr]

thanks, just for the record we are talking about the future. I haven't said anything to her yet so i haven't exactly screwed it up yet. I just hope i don't. I've liked this girl for a while, i was just affraid that i would screw it up. And so, due to circumstance i did not even try.

 

[don juan jr]

Would waiting a bit longer to prepare and research hurt my chances at all? Its already been about six months since i first seen her. I figure a couple more weeks couldn't hurt. Am i correct in thinking this? Or are we past the expiration date and that date was 5 months, 29 days, 23 hours, 59 minutes ago. Have i lost my window of opportunity?

V-Don, what would be a clever response?

 

[sexy_kuta]

man i would say leave it.

you should never worry about the past. worry about the future..

whatever happen is done.. leave it behind.. move on !!!!

 

[blinkwatt]

If a girl wants you to have her number she will let you have it regardless of any boyfriends,rules,conditions etc.

 

[don juan jr]

man i would say leave it.

you should never worry about the past. worry about the future..

whatever happen is done.. leave it behind.. move on !!!!

I know i should probably listen to you. I'd probably be better off if i did. But there is something different about this girl (very afc heh). She just seems more my type, shes got a certain aura, some kind of x-factor. I would want to be with her more than a hb10.

blinkwatt: thanks you opened my eyes.

Can somebody confirm that If a girl wants you to have her number she will let you have it regardless of any boyfriends,rules,conditions etc.

 

[blinkwatt]

"Can somebody confirm that If a girl wants you to have her number she will let you have it regardless of any boyfriends,rules,conditions etc."

I pulled a chick's number last week,she has a boyfriend of a year. Now she has recently told me that she has cried over trying to decide who to stay with,cause I don't wait and stay in the shadows. I only speak from expierence.

 

[Nighthawk]

If a woman refuses to give you her number you have either asked too soon or she has decided she doesn't want you in her life. Asking why is not going to accomplish much. And she'll just say she has a boyfriend.

I guess if you accepted that you'd blown it you could try a 'so, explain to me how I went wrong' routine that she might find charming, but that's kinda Hollywood bull****.

You need a few indications of interest before you make a move, have you had any eye-contact? Initiate some and see what happens.

 

[sexy_kuta]

if u want.. it wont hurt.. ask her why but it might draw her away from u even more,

asking is too afc.. if u man up she might see a difference in u and change her mind.. best bet is leave it

 

[don juan jr]

Yea we've had plenty eye contact. I caught her checkin me out while i was workin out a few times. She always looks away first though.

This is a delicate situation because i really don't want to screw this up. What is your opinion of asking too soon and asking too late?

 

[don juan jr]

i was going to approach with

"Hey, this is like the second time i've seen you."
"But i see you all the time"
"I know, i was going to say this is the second time i've seen you in a month."

and then go from there.

 

[Nighthawk]

Go from somewhere else.

 

[don juan jr]

hmm?

 

[sexy_kuta]

no be like

yo come spot me.. act like it doesnt bug u.. pretend nothing happend.. next time u see her and u catch her lookin say Hi then walk awya.....


then ask her to spot u..

she will be confused

 

[Tomatoes]

Never ask why....thats just plain stupid.

 

[flippinfreak]

Instead, think of something clever. Don't be conventional. I knew a con-man that stole everything through humor. Steal a heart though wit and charm.

I assumed you weren't just going to straight up say

"awwwwwwwwwwwwww, Whyyyyyyyyyyyyy NOOOOOOOT?"
(even though you could pull that off)