can u demand what your terms are i.e. kissing etc? i feel friendzoned

[drift_king]

ok, another thread about this girl. i lost it with her having a go at her for being flakey and forgetting we were meeting today.

i just couldn't understand given she's texted me the past 2 days cos she's missed me. i obviously f'd up by replying too soon, i just cant figure out why or how she forgot we were meeting today. she thought we were meeting today but i didn't offer a time.

i just dont understand when i told her last night 'see u tomorrow' by text. she would have at least asked to check what time we were meeting. its like her interest just faded once she knew that i was easy. is this normal?

 

[SchoolBoy]

Well I have read every single one of your posts and followed closely on it. I can diagnose that you have a serious case of oneitis. Replying too soon won't cause you to become friendzoned. If the girl had enough interest in you, it honestly wouldn't matter. You're over-analyzing every little detail and I can tell it's really effecting your game.

My advice to you is to take some time off from her and give it some space. Just to let your thoughts clear. Because right now, it seems that this girl is running game on you. You're letting your emotions get the better of you.

It also seems like you are really afraid of losing her. But you have to understand that you're really letting your fear take control of you. You never had her to begin with. The difference that makes the difference in indifference. And you are far from that right now.

You're universe shouldn't be revolving around this girl. Go out and do something to relax. Enjoy attracting women, don't turn it into a chore.

 

[drift king]

i know what you're saying.. i just can't believe it.

i failed the test when she told me that she still wanted to kiss me and i caved in by succumbing too fast.

she missed me, and text me last night and me texting back too quick told her everything she needed to know about me that im busy and i'll never leave.

she took me for granted, i can't believe how she could forget we were meeting today..it just doesn't make sense especially when i text her the night before saying 'see u tomorrow' she would have at least asked me what time if she didn't know when reading that text.

is bringing up these questions with her in a straightforward unthreatening manner the best way?

if i get mad or start asking her difficult questions she pulls the spoilt little girl routine of her not wanting to answer it.

i can;t believe she so majorly disrespected me.. it's like she's tryna subcommunicate to me that she changed her mind again and didn't have the heart to tell me.

 

[drift_king]

is her meeting up with me today a way for her to say sorry?

she's giving me her time cos she forgot yesterday. her actions speak louder than her words but if she's 1 who hates to disappoint and constantly needs to please people, her meeting up with me again is just a way to make her feel better.

 

[Ease]

it was probably a **** test.

She clearly knew wat she was doing since u told her the night before.

Your response showed you cared too much.

 

[WC2]

How many posts have you made about this girl?

Get it through your head.

She doesn't care about you.

Actions speak LOUDER than words.

A few texts saying she misses you is SO EASY for her to do and she loves it. She can keep you on a hook with these texts, no problem. And it's working.

However when she actually has to work (meet up with you), she forgets.

No, man. She didn't forget. She just doesn't want to.

Screw this chick and move on to another one. If you keep giving women multiple chances, you'll end up being that guy who is taken advantage of by not just women, but everyone.

You need to grow some balls and live your life without the need of a woman.

It seems like whenever a woman says as little as 'hey i miss you!', you drop EVERYTHING and dedicate all your time to her.

What woman wants to be with a man like this?

No woman.

A woman wants a man who is successful in life and wants a woman, but doesn't need her. She wants someone who she can follow; not someone who's going to follow her around.

Is it not all to clear to you by now?

I hope it is. Now.

 

[drift_king]

How many posts have you made about this girl?

Get it through your head.

She doesn't care about you.

Actions speak LOUDER than words.

A few texts saying she misses you is SO EASY for her to do and she loves it. She can keep you on a hook with these texts, no problem. And it's working.

However when she actually has to work (meet up with you), she forgets.

No, man. She didn't forget. She just doesn't want to.

Screw this chick and move on to another one. If you keep giving women multiple chances, you'll end up being that guy who is taken advantage of by not just women, but everyone.

You need to grow some balls and live your life without the need of a woman.

It seems like whenever a woman says as little as 'hey i miss you!', you drop EVERYTHING and dedicate all your time to her.

What woman wants to be with a man like this?

No woman.

A woman wants a man who is successful in life and wants a woman, but doesn't need her. She wants someone who she can follow; not someone who's going to follow her around.

Is it not all to clear to you by now?

I hope it is. Now.

she doesn't text me she misses me, i asked her yesterday why she sent me these texts on friday and saturday and she got embarassed and said its cos she missed me. it seemed genuine. but me telling her off after shes had a tiring stressful day and is on her period shes not going to respond to me well trying to kiss her. i feel like im being played and i probably am.

she offered to meet up with me on monday to come to my room to watch a movie. is this not significant at all?

if i dont seal the deal then there is no point. i just dont know what i should be expecting from her.. if she wont kiss me am i really going to be able to bang her?

my intimacy game when she's on my bed is not good enough at this stage to get her clothes off easily. the previous date we were making a joke about what i can do with 1 hand and i said i could undo her brastrap with 1 hand, she let me try but i failed cos i was using my left hand not my right. i dont know if that was significant in her mind that im full of sh1t.

lets assume i'll see her tomorrow for the movies in my room. this for me is the end point. if i dont get what i want in terms of kissing or even banging her than i'll finally end it cos im fed up of this as it is.

 

[SchoolBoy]

lets assume i'll see her tomorrow for the movies in my room. this for me is the end point. if i dont get what i want in terms of kissing or even banging her than i'll finally end it cos im fed up of this as it is.

WC2 is right about actions speaking louder than words. Whenever you're confused whether a woman is interested in you or not. Remember that line.

You should have applied the 2 strikes rule and nexted this girl for her flaky behavior. But instead you chose to pursue further. Which is a huge demonstration of lower value. That action itself is worse than all of your other AFC behaviors.

I hope you can keep your word and end it because this girl is obviously acting like a flaky attention wh0re to you. She may not act like that to someone she's genuinely interested in. She chose to act like that to you. Which is a huge red flag she should be nexted because somewhere down the line you screwed up in portraying your image to her.