Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Can this work?

blinkwatt101

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I have a neighbor I've been having sex with for a little bit now. She is super cool and a good girl,she just has a libido as high as mine so it works out well. We've never gone out....ever. All she does it come over and we go at it often. But in between the breaks in doing it I've come to find out she is really nice and really likable. She's 18 I'm 22. She even helped me train my dog when I first got her.

Don't get me wrong,I enjoy the sex,A LOT. But I guess it's just not natural for me to continuously sleep with someone over and over without feeling like I deserve it. Has anyone turned a 'play' buddy into a quality relationship before?

And no. I don't go around picking off young ones. Heck the only other chick I've slept with was 6 years older then me. BUT this chick was my super hot neighbor and so it was like a fantasy of mine, I couldn't help it.

Sorry for posting in here,but I don't want to hear a 'dude who gives a sh1t just f her already' from the other younger members.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Don't get me wrong,I enjoy the sex,A LOT. But I guess it's just not natural for me to continuously sleep with someone over and over without feeling like I deserve it. Has anyone turned a 'play' buddy into a quality relationship before?
First of all, you can continue to do this (it's actually in your nature) but you're battling society and programming which is making you feel guilt or shame. Second, yes FB's can be turned into STR/LTR but it is not very common and often (95%+) ends up being a PITA later because one side ends up with feelings and the other does not.

It sounds like you are starting to have some feelings. Plus, she's only 18. This is great for her. She can explore intimacy without feeling slvtty (you're the nice neighbor after all). She probably won't be able to envision a relationship with you. And you're both way to young to be talking relationships. Maybe you should be thinking what other "fun" stuff she's into and "explore" that with her (and maybe her friends) while she's still in this mode . Just my thoughts.

I have a neighbor I've been having sex with for a little bit now...
Heck the only other chick I've slept with was 6 years older then me. BUT this chick was my super hot neighbor and so it was like a fantasy of mine, I couldn't help it
Well, I guess it could probably work - until you get a new neighbor :)
 

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Yeah I think I'm starting to like her some. I gotta be careful. Before all we used to talk was sex,now its like we can have normal conversations.

Not gonna lie though. It's like 3 times more fun then I thought it was going to be.
 

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hmmm keep it going casual till she brings it up . Odds are you will say some crap, **** it up and get no more sex from her. Just enjoy ****ing her and being able to do what you want. Its quite possiable she likes the idea of you doing whatever you want and ****ing you. She might have a guy on the side or something els
 
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Don't f*ck it up and tell her you love her.

Just enjoy it for the moment and know that it won't last. Speaking of which, I just moved into an apartment community full of hot women. Mmmm.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Dude I don't love her. Trust me. I live in the moment,my parents leave the house,I ring her up. She comes over. Then we hang out with my dog or in my room and just talk.

Yeah we'll see,I really like what we have going now,basically when the normal dude has to masturbate....I get extremely stupid hot sex with a chick I know all of my friends drool over and try taking shots at.
 

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Ok, here is some old timer's advice.
Your 'relationship' with her is based on fun and excitement in a very teenage style.
Your parents go out - you and she get to play doctors and nurses. It is all kind of thrilling because it is with a hot neighbor and at it's base it has elements of forbidden and secretive lust. That is what is driving your desire and hers' as much as the sex itself. Anticipation and fantasy is what young women feed off. In her room, she is dreaming about a 'real' relationship with all the dating rituals and the romance and togetherness, but know this, if you head in that direction she will dump you. Fantasies are worthless when they come true. They turn into burdens for some women.

Stay exactly like you are with her - after all she is coming back for more.
 

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Fml man. I get a situation that people dream of and I want to screw it up...oh well live and learn.
 

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blinkwatt101 said:
Fml man. I get a situation that people dream of and I want to screw it up...oh well live and learn.
We saved you just in time.
 
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