"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Joshski

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Just a bit you should know about me first, this happened when I was 14 (freshman in high school) and I have/had absolutely no experience in dating/relationships so don't hurt me. :eek:

So there was this girl that I saw on the first day of school (high school). I kinda liked her. Being the first day, I quickly forgot about her for a while.

We had 3 or 4 classes together so we became friends pretty quickly. Then out of nowhere, she would run up to me any time she saw me and say hi. She would poke me, punch me, kick me (but not hard) on purpose. We had health class together and that became a free at the end of a semester. So during our free, we (almost everyone in that class) would go to the Student Center to hang out. We would sit on a bench and she would often sit next to me. I would grab a chair to use as my foot/leg rest and she would put hers on top of mine. She would put her head on my shoulder when she was tired.

So I really liked her now....now I had no experience at the time and I told her how I felt. (I found out that I'm not supposed to do that :() Only 1 problem, she didn't like me. So near the end of the year, all that stuff ended and we would walk past each other w/o saying anything.

My question is, is there any way we can become good friends again or did I screw it all up?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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kokane

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Although a li'l inexperienced i am confident this wud help. Basics: Have faith in urself. Have patience. Now the real work. Read the DJ Bible. Atleast all of Pook's and Senor Fingers' posts. Get atleast 1 gf who's better than her( Dont worry, there are lots). Just say hi one day when YOU feel like it but this time eliminate all desire. Just treat her as one of ur male friends. U r done. This will do for now.
 

search1ng

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it's really weird though isn't it? Within context, a rational mind would conclude that if she was expressing herself like that and you countered with 'i like you,' or some variation, she would be happy about the reciprocation of feeling and people all over the world would have less to worry about. Instead sh1t like this happens
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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