Can the two worlds co-exist?

[rhcp83]

Full disclosure: I suffer from depression and mild OCD. In other words, my moods can shift or I can become over-obsessive or over-analytical about something, making a problem worse.

My question is, can you yearn for a regular woman and fantasize to unrealistically hot women at the same time?

When I look at porn, it isn't some guy and girl fvcking. It's usually some girl with a perfect T n A ratio walking around naked, like at a nude beach or something. Women that even if you lived in a big city or warm climate area, would not see a lot of (sure you'd see some, but I'm talking perfect ass, nice tits, etc.)

It skewed my perception of reality. The first girl I dated would easily rank an 8 to most guys on this site despite not being the overdressed/preppy/AW type, and it was disappointing to me when I saw her naked even though she had nice tits and was very pretty. Because she didn't have that perfectly sculpted high class stripper like body, I was very underwhelmed (at the time.)

On the other hand, I was very attracted to her and liked her as a person...couldn't stop looking at her when we were face to face etc. . Yet I yearned for some woman with a porn/stripper like body.

Last year, I was trying to organize a pool party with a bunch of nude women and myself and a few friends.

So I guess my question is, can you indulge in porn but just keep it at a fantasy level, or is it something you either abstain from completely or go all in with?

I noticed when I was on my old meds, I wasn't looking at porn whatsoever or thinking of porn like women. I still loved women, was hetero, but was more concentrated on the getting a good, cute gf part.

Now I'm on new meds, and the sex drive and desire to look at porn is back, and I'm just worried that it will get out of hand (no pun intended) again.

The problem with porn is, anything you want, it's out there. I mean I have to search and find particular sites to get the nude/curvy woman walking around naked softcore sh1t I like, but it's out there.

The other question is, when I do get a cute gf and have sex with her (I'm a virgin...did everything else with that aforementioned girl) will I be disappointed since she doesn't have that type of body, or will being more informed and realistic help me?

 

[Iceberg]

I'm trying to summarize what you wrote - Are you asking if it's possible to watch porn, but have realistic expectations about women?

If that's the question, then the answer is yes. Unless you realistically believe that all guys who watch porn are living with the expectation that "real" women also have huge t!ts, a tiny waist, and take it up the butt.

Porn is a fantasy. Like any other TV show or movie. It has no bearing on how I live my real life.

 

[rhcp83]

Yeah that's what I was asking.

Also if you can enjoy it in moderation. It seems to me in my experience and other guys I know that either you don't look at it at all/hardly ever or you're obsessed with it.

 

[ilikecharlene]

This may be a silly analogy, but is a football simulation game on XBox or PS3 truly representative of actually playing it? Can one play such a game, then go play in the Superbowl? Can one play FIFA 12, and play in Spain or England? Of course not.

All porn is a depiction of sex, but it doesn't have to be a realistic representation, just because it shows sex. A lot of guys think that porn is meant to represent reality, when it's just entertainment. This is why porn was invented.