"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Can someone please interpret this ******** for me?

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I have been neg-hitting and teasing this girl like mad, she's enjoying it and we are both having fun, probably because she's one of those types that guys put her on a pesdestal and she was just never been teased much

but then she told me: sometimes, i wished youd take things a little more seriously and stop teasing me, makes things rather shallow

What is she trying to say?

and what do i say/do in responce?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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DJ4Life said:
but then she told me: sometimes, i wished youd take things a little more seriously and stop teasing me, makes things rather shallow

What is she trying to say?
I've ran into ths problem. Try toning back the negging and C+F. Have a real conversation with her and let the real you shine through a little bit. Get to know her and vice versa.

Then, turn the negging and C+F back on. But just remember, the goal is to have fun, not beat her down (I only like to beat the brawds down when they clearly think they are God's gift to the world...LMAO. God only had one gift to the world, and that was me!!!).

Keep us posted.
 
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She is saying, "Quit treating me like a one of your male buddies and start treating me and pursuing me as a man does a woman!!!
 

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G-Theory said:
I've ran into ths problem. Try toning back the negging and C+F. Have a real conversation with her and let the real you shine through a little bit. Get to know her and vice versa.

Then, turn the negging and C+F back on. But just remember, the goal is to have fun, not beat her down (I only like to beat the brawds down when they clearly think they are God's gift to the world...LMAO. God only had one gift to the world, and that was me!!!).

Keep us posted.
i think you are right, she's been telling me how in our convo we are mostly talking about her and she feels like she doesnt know much about me
 

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DJ4L,

I have the same problem. When I start the CF it's like an avalanche. Yes, it works and they laugh---but I am sure it gets old.

I get the "I don't know you." Or "I am confused" line a lot. I think it builds some tension but at some point we have to be 'serious.'
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Post Update:

So originally she said: Sometimes, i wish you'd take things a little more seriously and stop teasing me, makes things rather shallow

my reply to her was: Baby, this is who i am, you either love me or hate me. Well, if you want our relationship to be deeper, what do you think our meet up on Monday is for? Besides you buying me strawberry icre cream and telling me why you rated yourself an 8 ;)

Her latest response: I thought about it. im not an 8 at all. gosh, I'm nowhere near an 8. im more of a 6. or 6.5 at the most. i dunt know what i was thinking :S

:( so i will not need to explain to you why i am a 6.5:) and, i choose to hate you ;)
 

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she gets the point, you've passed stage one of her comfort level, escalate to kino, get her away from her friends, tease and kiss.

she shouldnt be telling you this, you should already know enough is enough :yes:
 

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Last Man Standing said:
She is saying, "Quit treating me like a one of your male buddies and start treating me and pursuing me as a man does a woman!!!
YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! YOU DIDN'T CALL HER A "HOR" :flowers:

I think you're growing grandpa . . .
 

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DJ4Life said:
but then she told me: sometimes, i wished youd take things a little more seriously and stop teasing me, makes things rather shallow

What is she trying to say?

and what do i say/do in responce?
Think of it in this way; ****y/Funny, Playful arrogance, or whatever term you want to deem it, is best used as a condiment to flavor the meal. You want to sprinkle it here and there like fresh cracked sea salt or black pepper.

If you over season the food it ends up leaving a bad taste in your mouth. That's exactly the way she feels when you overseason with C&F.
 

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KarmaSutra said:
Think of it in this way; ****y/Funny, Playful arrogance, or whatever term you want to deem it, is best used as a condiment to flavor the meal. You want to sprinkle it here and there like fresh cracked sea salt or black pepper.

If you over season the food it ends up leaving a bad taste in your mouth. That's exactly the way she feels when you overseason with C&F.
This makes a lot of sense karmasutra, i never really realized this before, thanks for the enlightening.

So what should the main course be? Confidence? My true personalities?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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The main course is your overt personality. Your genuinness and natural charisma should shine through. Not some fake personae you downloaded from David Deangelo or Mystery.

Be true to yourself. It's also the easiest thing for you to remember.
 
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KarmaSutra said:
YEEEEEEEESSSSSSSSSSSSSS! YOU DIDN'T CALL HER A "HOR" :flowers:

I think you're growing grandpa . . .
There was no sexual contact involved - just banter and laughter!! She could still be a hor but we don't have enough info on her -- we'll see how things develop!

The crux of the issue here is that she wants DJ4life to quit acting as an entertaining clown and start acting like a man who sees her as a woman!!!
 
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