"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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CAn someone please help me with my 2 year long girl issue :( In deep sadness.

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I was chatting with her today on ICQ, she send a few pics of her and her family over so i that i can help her print them out. I haven't seen her for 2 years..she got prettier.
Yet when i see her pics, i just want to cry and a deeep sadness flows inside me. Like several needs flowing in my atery.


Embrace death as you would embrace love,
For death is the solution to all desolation and tribulation,
Life is dark without light,
Light is gone and life is no more,

Even a life-long prosperity is but one cup of sake;
A life of eighteen years is passed in a dream;
I know not what life is, nor death.
Year in year out-all but a dream.
Both Heaven and Hell are left behind;
I stand in the moonlit dawn,
Free from clouds of attachment.
When will be my end,
A question that I hope where answer arrives soon.

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From a NOOB guy, never had a GF:

Ok guys..this is quiet a complicated situation but I sincerely hope that u relationship experts can give me a hand on this.

I knew this Chinese girl since when I was in Grade11 over 2 years ago in math class. We helped each other in school work and etc but then a year later I TRANSFERRED to another school. So basically I have not seen her in person for 2 years but we kept in touch via ICQ. And during the tough times of school, we support each other by saying encouraging things and in one occasion she even took the effort to scan many pages of her old test to help me out.. we thus kept in touch for 2 years this way… basically she is a really good and caring friend. Being a person who moves from country to country, school to school, I don’t have many close friends..but I consider her as one of my closest.

Basically her and mine personality really match in almost every aspect. She and me is those non-clubbing/partying type, we also like the same style of music, sports, arts blah blah…..(EXCEPT COMPUTERS HAHA) Her personality is a little shy (not partying/clubbing type, likes quiet stuff etc)

Now we both are in university, although she is in a different one, we still kept in touch and chatted everyday.

I also asked her if she has BF GOOD news:..SHE IS STILL SINGLE..NO BF...YAY!!! so it is good news...BUT she said that she is busy with school (me and her freshman)..WHEW she has no BF..so what should i do now?
NO I NEVER ASKED HER OUT OR SAID DO YOU LIKE ME OR SOMETHING, I was jokingly having a conversation with her y she was not hooked up yet since 2 years i left that school. SO IT IS NOT REJECTION FROM HER!!!

For me, i don't plan to jump into serious relationships too as i am dead busy too..but in the meantime, i want to foster even closer friendship so when the time comes..i can hop right in.
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Keeping things simple:

1) I know this girl from high school (we are both chinese) for about 2 years.
2) I really like her but never have the gut to ask her out
3) Now we are in different university and we still keep in touch and chat everyday on ICQ and we click REALLY well..very supportive with each other.
4) I really like her but i don't know how to express it.

Side note: She has no boyfriend.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I remember reading this post a long time ago. Is anything new? This looks like the exact same post you posted three months ago. What are any updates of things you have done or her? Did you try Walden's advice? I don't understand why you are posting this exact post again... If nothing happened in the past three months it is because you didn't try anything. If you don't try anything, you can't expect anything to happen. That's my advice to you. Instead of lamenting every three months over it and posting the exact same post word for word. ~Zappa

EDIT: I just read your post again and read the part about her birthday coming up in October. Stop going to old posts and being a copy-and-pastemo
 

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Next her!
LDR probably won't work. Most Chinese girls are very reserved and goal oriented therefore no BF, so dont be too happy of her current status, and im sure she only thinks of you as a friend all along despite of what ya'll have in common. Her BD is coming up, wish her a happy birthday, but please no gifts. I know you like her, im also pretty sure that she will LJBFed you if you express your feelings.
 

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Originally posted by HuuBinh
im also pretty sure that she will LJBFed you if you express your feelings.
Listen to this man... Pursue other interests... Don't get wrapped up in this girl. Anyway... also hailing from ATL Huubinh. ~Zappa
 

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what is LDR and BD??
sorry about the birthday thing, that was copied from a old post. Her bday is over .
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sounds like you have the same personality and likes/dislikes - are you chinese too?


it is hard to start a romantic relationship now that you are both away from each other, but never give up -- especially if she is conservative in nature and still is a virgin --- if she is sleeping around then y bother with her she is just another ho...If you want this girl for marriage then go visit her personally and tell her that you would like to be together and make plans to make this happen.

Maybe she likes you but you never made it known to her that the feeling is mutual. I would do this as soon as possible before she moves on with her life.
 

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PM me your address...

So I can come to your house, and in person... SLAP SOME SENSE INTO YOU PRONTO

This is extremely pathetic, you have been pining over the same chick for 2 years! Get over it buddy, if nothing has happened, it wont. If you have done nothing with her, you wont. Move on right now.

NEXT.
 
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