"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Can someone explain what the hell happened?

The Great One

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So I met this girl about 2 months ago. We hit it off well, and had been talking ever since. The more we hung out, the more attracted we became to each other. One problem was that we were both in relationships, so we decided to try to keep our hands off of each other. Well we still talked, still hooked up, and her interest level went through the roof. She started saying things like "If we are ever both single, then we are going to start dating"......"I am going to come home every weekend to see you" (She is going to college about an hour away) etc. I met her parents and her parents love me and even would tell her to break up with her bf and date me.

So a few weeks ago, I was leaving for a vacation. We had sex the night before I left and all was great. When I was gone, I would speak to her often, but not too often. She would randomly text me telling me how much she missed me etc. One night she even randomly called me and thanked me for being the reason that she realized her relationship sucked and that she should get out of it. (She broke up with her bf a few days later).

So the rest of the vacation goes by and it turns out that I got home a day earlier than expected. So I call her and we hang out. She seemed excited to see me but that was probably where the "normalness" ended. The whole night she was being a complete *****, there were many long, awkward silences during our conversations, and things just didn't seem right. I have no clue what the hell happened to the girl that I was hanging out with before my vacation but when I got back, she seemed like a total different person.

My question is what the hell did I miss in the three weeks that I was gone that made her a totally different person when I got back? ANY insight is appreciated. :confused:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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I don't know all the details of the situation, but I'm guessing that she got a thrill from cheating on her boyfriend. Perhaps she was bored her relationship and used you as a way to excite things. However after she broke up with her boyfriend, she realized what she did.

You need to understand once a cheater, always a cheater. What makes you think she won't do the same thing to you if you guys hook up? But I don't think it's anything you did that make her lose interest, she just has issues.
 

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lYlasTer said:
You need to understand once a cheater, always a cheater. What makes you think she won't do the same thing to you if you guys hook up? But I don't think it's anything you did that make her lose interest, she just has issues.
Thanks for the input.

Also, I agree with you on this one. She has already been nexted in my mind, I just wanted some closure on the situation. :up:
 

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simple answer: *****es are ****ed that way... enjoy the highs while they last..
 
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She is just the next hor in line!!!
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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