Can someone explain what happened between the two of us?

[RaulDuke]

Sorry for somewhat of a long post..

Thank you all for reading in advance and thank you for any feedback you can give.


So a girl I went to high school with found me on facebook a couple of months ago..we started chatting and met up. The first night I was with her she was telling me she wants to be with me and started asking me what's gonna happen between the two of us. We hung out a few more times with friends and then a few days later she wanted me to come to her aunt's house to meet them. Next she invited me to another family dinner and three weeks into it I went with her and her family to the Hamptoms for the weekend.

We slept together within a week of meeting up.
She started telling me she wanted me to move in within about two weeks and asking me if I wanted keys to the apartment.
She started telling me she loves me in four weeks.
She kept telling me she loves me and being affectionate, pda, etc. up until a few days ago.

A couple of my friends and I went over her house to drink and I told her that night that it seemed that she was more excited to see them than me..Next day she wasn't talking to me because I made her go to sleep mad for saying that. Then she started getting annoyed at everything I do..next day she wouldn't even come close to me..no more of the affection, no more trying to kiss me, and anything I would do or say she would get annoyed.

My response would be to just get quiet because I would ask her whats wrong and she would say nothing and so we just would stop talking.

This has been going on for a few days. Yesterday was my birthday, turned 25 she again didn't want to kiss me..would give me some bull**** about having lip gloss on and just wasn't acting the same at all. I kept asking again what the matter was and she said nothing.. I asked why she isn't being affectionate anymore and she said she was never affectionate to me. I asked why she wouldn't kiss me she said it was rude. I told her I wanted to build something with her and was upset for two days thinking about why it changed and she said it wasn't her fault I was upset... The only reason she gave me was that I wasn't talking to her...but she keeps telling me that everything is ok but at the same acting so different.

Can someone explain what this because I have no idea.
Sorry for a long post.
Is it possible to be so close and all of a sudden be like this?

 

[romangod]

Can someone explain what this because I have no idea.

Is it possible to be so close and all of a sudden be like this?

This is what we call the "Madness of Modern Women". Who knows what goes through their screwed up heads? There's no simple explanation. We are at a time in the evolution of our society where women have never been more spun and beyond any logic.

Anything's possible.


Cheers!

 

[sodbuster]

She might be looking for an excuse to bounce to one of your friends,she may have found someone else,she may have 'that time' or as stated'modern womens screwed up heads'

 

[mikeraw]

She obviously has some mental issues. Give us more details regarding your times that you were physically in her presence.

I've had a few girls like this and I can tell you that it doesn't look too hopeful. The absolute best thing you can do about this situation right now is to break contact off completely for a while until someone here replies with something more concrete... based on additional details you provide.

 

[decades]

maybe she is "bipolar". :crackup:

 

[Mr. Me]

I hoped you used condoms, and then after their use, destroyed them and their contents, because she may have been looking just to get pregnant and, coming upon your Facebook and remembering you being the AFC type from high school (I'm guessing), said things to turn your head and secure what she wants - until she got what she wanted.

Or she's just a love rush junkie drama queen. When it starts fast, it ends fast.

I told her that night that it seemed that she was more excited to see them than me.

Let's assume for a moment that this gal was relatively normal. Telling a woman something like that, and telling her the way you said it, accomplishes nothing except letting them know you need attention and makes you look a little anxiety-ridden and jealous. Big time turn off.

If you need to say something along those lines, it's better to do it in a joking kind of way. In that manner, the message gets through but is buffered by the humor.

I told her I wanted to build something with her and was upset for two days thinking about why it changed and she said

She's being the cat playing with you, the mouse. You're way too into her, considering the brevity of time together, and telling her you want a future with her at this point is not the best thing for your sake. Especially since she's not on the same page. Let alone that she may be nuts.

You're trying to cling on and bring her to you by telling her how you feel. But she doesn't care how you feel. She cares about how SHE feels. And that's exactly what you need to consider, because as much as you want her, if she doesn't want you, it's not going to happen, no matter how much you proclaim it upsets you.

In fact, you need to know that the more you try to hold on, the more she'll push away.
So the best thing to do is counter-intuitive, and that is to disappear. Walk. Lose her number. Forget her. Put yourself first and treat yourself better. Can you imagine what a roller coaster life would be like with this girl?

 

[thirdtimescharm]

Women flake. We don't always know why and trying to figure it out will drive you crazy. She sounds like a nut though...way too needy off the start. Run.