Can someone explain this situation to me.

[FortunateSon]

There's this girl, I've known her for a while, I'm interested in her, I think she is attractive, but I've got no oneitis over her.

I hadn't seen her for over a year before I bumped into her at a party back in November and we got talking, had a catch up and then she said "I really want a boyfriend, you should hook me up with someone", I started laughing because of the randomness of the comment and I told her that I'm not cupid and that she would have to find someone herself. So that was then.

I have seen her several times since then and she's always saying how me, her and some of our mutual friends should plan a night out together, blah, blah, blah!

Well just the other day I bumped into her and we got talking, out of nowhere she asks me if I have a girlfriend, so I just say "nope", "what about you?", she tells me she is seeing someone but has other things going on that are taking priority.

So fast forward a few minutes later and she brings up the "let's get together with some friends and go out sometime" and so we swap numbers.

I haven't seen her since, I haven't text her because I'm pretty sure I'm friendzoned and I don't want to be friends with her and I sure as hell don't want to be an orbitor, so am I right about being friendzoned or she is interested in me?

 

[Thorninmyside]

So fast forward a few minutes later and she brings up the "let's get together with some friends and go out sometime" and so we swap numbers.

I haven't seen her since, I haven't text her because I'm pretty sure I'm friendzoned and I don't want to be friends with her and I sure as hell don't want to be an orbitor, so am I right about being friendzoned or she is interested in me?

Next time tell her "why don't we talk it over in bed?" haha. Sounds like she needs to be pushed a pulled a little to remember you're a man with a **** and not one of her girls. If she doesn't respond so some directness I guess you have your friend zone question answered and can keep her orbiting you while you give your time to better prospects and she sees you as a catch. Maybe a bit of competition will stop her pvssy footing around if she's really wants something.

Let's see what some of the experienced road dogs have to say.

 

[FortunateSon]

I can't work her out pal! I mean if a girl is interested in you why the hell would she come out with "I want a boyfriend, you should hook me up with someone", I mean that makes me think "friendzoned".

But then she asks me if I have a girlfriend, I mean if we were close friends I wouldn't bat an eyelid, but this question was a bolt out of the blue and caught me off guard.

Then she wants to go out in a group for a night out, it makes me think "yeah she just sees me as a friend". Now if she does, then she does and I'm not going to waste my time on a girl that isn't interested and I'd probably just use her as a link to some of her friends, but usually I can tell if a girl is interested in me or not, with her I haven't got a clue.

 

[n52]

go out clubbing or whatnot with her and her mates, make a move on her. theres ur question answered. end of story

 

[Cremasta]

I hadn't seen her for over a year before I bumped into her at a party back in November and we got talking, had a catch up and then she said "I really want a boyfriend, you should hook me up with someone", I started laughing because of the randomness of the comment and I told her that I'm not cupid and that she would have to find someone herself. So that was then.

Yeah, that was a tough one she threw you there. Don't worry, most guys would have been knocked off their centre with that.

There's probably a few good responses to this, but one could have been like:

HB: "I really want a boyfriend, you should hook me up with someone."
FortunateSon: *teasingly* "You don't know what you want. You could have the perfect guy standing right in front of you and you wouldn't realise!"

You'd have to wing it after that depending on how defensive she got, or whether she actually realised you were talking about yourself.

 

[FortunateSon]

go out clubbing or whatnot with her and her mates, make a move on her. theres ur question answered. end of story

I will end up doing that if a night out is arranged.

Yeah, that was a tough one she threw you there. Don't worry, most guys would have been knocked off their centre with that.

There's probably a few good responses to this, but one could have been like:

HB: "I really want a boyfriend, you should hook me up with someone."
FortunateSon: *teasingly* "You don't know what you want. You could have the perfect guy standing right in front of you and you wouldn't realise!"

You'd have to wing it after that depending on how defensive she got, or whether she actually realised you were talking about yourself.

I've been knocked back by her randomness and the fact she's the first girl I haven't been able to figure out. You can usually get some inkling as to whether or not a woman likes you or doesn't, but I have no idea about this girl which is why I made the thread.

Still I'm just going to focus on other girls and other aspects of my life such as self-improvement and whatever happens or doesn't happen with this girl happens or doesn't.