"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Can someone explain the dangers of dating a girl with daddy issues?

Blue Phoenix

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tsmith2334 said:
^^^ Avoid at all costs.

As a child, we view our parents as the blueprint for future relationships and are strongly influenced by the opposite-sex parent in terms of attraction (multiple studies have proved this). A girl who comes from a broken household and has Daddy issues will have NO idea how to maintain a healthy relationship.

One of my most serious relationships was with a girl who hated her father (parents were a divorced, Dad cheated and was emotionally abusive) and dating her was the biggest headache ever.

She was a self-mutilator, had a physically abusive ex who she went BACK TO after we broke it off, she was on anti-depressants, etc. And that's just page one. She was one of the cutest girls I've ever dated but also the worst experience. The baggage and mind games I had to deal with were torture.

For comparison purposes, the girl I'm dating now is a daddy's girl and her parents are happily married. I'm telling you... stay away from any girl with daddy issues.
RIGHT ON. My family is a mess! I´m sure my dad cheats on my mom. He was always absent and could be too critical with me when I was a child. Guess what? His father (my granddad) did the same to him, and my dad is frustrated. It´s a domino effect.

My view of relationships is a little twisted. I really don´t have any plans to get married. I´m striving to overcome my insecurites so I won´t repeat what my dad did to me. My dad thinks that just because he has the "title" (father) it´s enough, never gave a sh!t about anyone but himself.

"Married people are happier:"

Watch out! Just because a couple is still together (dad and mom) it doesn´t mean they are "functional". A lot of times you see an abusive person and an enabler (savior), and this becomes your reference. A lot of people live in denial, in loveless marriages just to save face, or because of the money, just like my family. My mom is the enabler, and I was supposed to take care of her when I was a kid.

Sometimes, a divorced couple is better than a couple who fights all the time. Almost everyday, I´d wake up with my dad raging at my mom, this scared the hell out of me, sometimes I felt like going there and asking him to shut the fck up!

Awareness is important and as well as questioning what is considered "normal" behavior of those around you. At least I was smart enough to see I was in a FOG. *I know I kinda drifted a little talking about me, but I´m a real example of what you´ve posted.
 

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