can someone decipher this e-mail correspondence? need advice

[enDo]

so theres this cute chick in my class, i haven't really talked to her much and were acquaintances at most. i ran into her in the dining hall this Friday and made some small talk before i said "hey i gotta go but we should get lunch over the weekend", she goes "yeah sure", i go, "great, let me get your number", she goes "oh i dont have a cp, im old fashioned, but email me, its blah@blah.com"

so i email her yesterday evening:
hey, lets go to the big top tomorrow afternoon, what times good for you?
let me know, john

she replies this morning:
John, hey im sorry but i dont think i can make today, my friends from new hampshire/caribou are actually coming up to visit me today! I havent seen them in a while i will be out by noon and probably shopping and what not (ehk, exhausting) until my class later tonight. I'm sorry about having to cancel plans, but i will see you in class Talk soon, kat.

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any comments, deciphering, advice, analysis would be appreciated.

what do u guys make of this, what would u guys suggest for the next move?

 

[LA_Chico]

Whats to de-cipher bro? unless you only speak Spanish.

 

[PectoralisMajor]

Piece of cake this one. Your definately only seen as a friend.

See how she made no alternative arrangements to go out of her way and meet you OUTSIDE of class in her email?

Do you honestly think she has no home number she could have given you?

If you had to do the email thing, more notice is definately needed with making arrangements. You have a busy schedule too right? and cant just drop things like that to see her the day after.

Shut and closed case.

 

[enDo]

damn

 

[banGbro]

She tested you when she told you she has no number, you failed the test.. Next time dont take no for an answer, and be prepared to leave without number or email if you dont hear what you want, even if she gives you her number make sure you ask her properly if thats the number she actually answers.

She challenged you - you failed - in her mind youre a wuss.. From this point on it could only develop into a friendship, so move on man.


When she said yea sure, right there you failed by saying "great, .....".. Should have been more arrongant, like do you always give numbers to strangers this easily?

 

[DJDamage]

"oh i dont have a cp, im old fashioned, but email me, its blah@blah.com

You should have told her that you are old fashion yourself and you don't use email. If she truly doesn't have a cell phone (which I doubt) and if she had a high interest in you she would have given you her house phone number.

so i email her yesterday evening:
hey, lets go to the big top tomorrow afternoon, what times good for you?
let me know, john

You can't get anymore wussier then asking her out through email.

she replies this morning:
John, hey im sorry but i dont think i can make today, my friends from new hampshire/caribou are actually coming up to visit me today! I havent seen them in a while i will be out by noon and probably shopping and what not (ehk, exhausting) until my class later tonight. I'm sorry about having to cancel plans, but i will see you in class Talk soon, kat.

Translation: "I am making some sh1t up to not go out with you"

 

[rrrrr]

Well he already asked her out in class but she gave him her email, the only means of communication.... I don't think it's a **** test to only offer an email, but you can assert yourself and show you're assertive by not taking the BS, which may be attractive to them, and put you back in the game. This girl has low interest, plain and simple.

I was talking to my friend about a date he went on, and her response to his text massage after the date was over was, "I had a great time too, talk to you later..." I took that as a not so great text message. It ended up she was not interested in him. Then why would she say "talk to you later" if she has no interest in him? Women don't know how to communicate with men. They do not make it obvious they have no interest in you.

Have you ever met a woman who you like and barely know you put yourself out there, get her number, ask her out and she responds by "I'm not interested and will not talk to you again?" probably not, they try to be gentle about it and say, "maybe some other time." "i can't give you my cell phone number, it's broke," or some other BS. If she doesn't put effort into it, she's not interested in you, regardless of her "oh I can't do that, sorry" remarks. Now, if you continue to hound them after you don't get the hint, THEN you get the "Look, I'm not interested, get the POINT?" speech.

 

[banGbro]

You also have a task now of projecting qualities she and her friends find desirable. That is, act cool like nothing ever happened ignore her. After several interactions where you ignore her, shell start trying to get your attention, you gotta ignore her no matter what, like keep your cool... shes just another girl youre not interested in. (not gisgusted or anything that affects your personally, not interested thats all). If it gets too heavy, just tell her shed make an ALL RIGHT friend.

Talk to other people, but not to show her that you are cool with everything, simply because you like talking to people and you are having fun. In other words, youve moved on, and there are no grudges, nor anything ever has affected you.

As far as getting with her, forget it, even if she starts to be interested with you. Best thing at that point is to tell her you only see her as a friend. The idea is only to only use her as a vehicle to further your status, youll get more than a few points if you say no to her when the time comes. Make sure that happens in public though.



So, next time you see her, you acting cool, like the day before you asked her out, no problems. And if she brings up the e-mail, say "Uhmmm???"... be surprised... "I never got any e-mail, perhaps my junk filter got it."

 

[JJMcLure]

She put you in a bit of a weak position by making you take the e-mail. Asking out via e-mail or text is weak. Do it in person or on the phone.

The trail of events doesn't look too favourable, in that she didn't give you a number then didn't suggest alternative arrangements.

However, it was kind of short notice you gave her so in future (with any chick) plan more in advance. If she was interested she would likely apologise again when she sees you, and hint you should ask again.

By the way, don't start ignoring her unless you want to look immature and like your feelings got hurt. Just act normal.