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The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Can someone ask too many questions?

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Since I have trouble thinking of things to say sometimes, I have a tendency of asking a lot of questions to create conversation. Is there something wrong with this and do people think it's annoying?

One big problem I have also is I kind of think slow so when someone says something I should react to I kind of pause, get really nervous, and most of the time end of saying something stupid. Then later on I think of all these good things I could of said and I really wish I thought of them then.
 

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The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Originally posted by bud_2005
Since I have trouble thinking of things to say sometimes, I have a tendency of asking a lot of questions to create conversation. Is there something wrong with this and do people think it's annoying?

One big problem I have also is I kind of think slow so when someone says something I should react to I kind of pause, get really nervous, and most of the time end of saying something stupid. Then later on I think of all these good things I could of said and I really wish I thought of them then.
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Yes, it can be very irritating. One of my roommates annoys everybody he comes in contact with because he's got a nervous tick and can't handle silence. So he'll come watch TV with you sometimes just to bombard you with questions.

The rule of thumb is, just don't ask stupid questions that you obviously know the answer to just to fill the silence.

People, especially guys, would rather be chilled out. A ton of questions really puts people on edge.

Just relax and let the conversation flow... Speak slower and think things through... Silence is so much better than a question-monger.

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I think girls like it when a guy asks questions about her on a date. They like it when you show interest in them as a person rather than just a sex object. Plus all girls love to talk about themselves.
 

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Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Originally posted by Fatality
I think girls like it when a guy asks questions about her on a date. They like it when you show interest in them as a person rather than just a sex object. Plus all girls love to talk about themselves.
This is true, but I think it depends on how you ask the questions, your demeanor. You need to come off calm and in control, not anxious or needy.
I recently read that asking to many questions shows that you're nervous or looking for acceptance.

One big problem I have also is I kind of think slow so when someone says something I should react to I kind of pause, get really nervous, and most of the time end of saying something stupid.

Don't react to what other people say, this puts you in a defensive position. Instead, lead the conversation and let other people worry about reacting to what you're saying. This will not only calm you, but build your confidence. Hope this helps...
 

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When you talk to your closest buddies or family members, do you ask a lot of questions? No. You have rapport and trust with these people and don't feel silly if there's a pause in the conversation.

Questions are great to open someone until you find something about them you can mutually discuss open-endedly. Then you can find out all you need to know about someone through the stories they tell and the comments they make. (and they can tell all about you, so make it good on your end. ;) ) No one likes to take a survey.

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Well I guess one of the reasons I do it is I don't want to be thought of as a boring person who never talks.
 
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