Sometimes on dates I get worried about running out of things to say. I find it better to have conversation going most of the time. But how do quiet guys, that rarely talk, get girls. Some of the biggest ladygetters are guys that don't have much to say. How can a girl enjoy going out with them if they aren't having that much fun talking with them?
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Can quiet guys get chicks?
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
They (the ladies) feel comfortable around the man.
Can quiet guys get chicks? Yes.
It's who you are, that make sense to the chick's mind. If she see a short skinny Chinese acting like a Black thug in the street cursing and swearing, it won't make too much sense. So no matter what the Chinese say, he won't get chicks.
Can quiet guys get chicks? Yes.
It's who you are, that make sense to the chick's mind. If she see a short skinny Chinese acting like a Black thug in the street cursing and swearing, it won't make too much sense. So no matter what the Chinese say, he won't get chicks.
I'd say it's hard, almost impossible to get any decent looking chick if you're really quiet and introverted. I mean let's say you're trying to pick-up a chick from a cold approach. Usually the girl expects you to carry the conversation while she sits back and sizes you up. Too many awkard pauses and not enough talking and she'll just get uncomfortable and write you off.
note.the.smoke
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one word
connection.
connection.
If your on a date and your running out of things to say , slow down a bit , talk about what you did in ur day , going to the store or what not , talk about the news , current events , try to get information out of her you dont already have . and use those quiet , or pauses to apply some kino during your date. or go to the bathroom , or pretend like u have to fix a sock or something cuz its annoying you lol . just dont sit there doing nothing at alllll.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
aftershock
Master Don Juan
What many so called DJs fail to realise is that there are plenty of ways to get women and be a DJ.
Quiet guys can be DJs. I'd say it was less likely than others, but yes, they can.
Just like black guys can be DJ's, white guys, asians, short guys, fat guys, guys with blonde hair etc etc etc
Quiet guys can be DJs. I'd say it was less likely than others, but yes, they can.
Just like black guys can be DJ's, white guys, asians, short guys, fat guys, guys with blonde hair etc etc etc
undesputable
Master Don Juan
i dont think the original poster meant it like this. Yea if you just meet a girl and you run out of things to say, then youre a dumbass. but if you know the girl, she knows you and all that is established, i dont think it really matters if you dont have anything to say as long as your cool and confident.
I think he did ask how do quiet guys get girls. He only gave an example of running out of material on a date. I don't think being naturally quiet or introverted makes one a dumbass, most of those types are intelligent. Anyway, I haven't noticed introverted personality types being particularly successful, but I'd say for the ones that are successful it's combination of looks, good body language, being confident and comfortable in your own skin. Chicks tend to misconstrue what you say a lot anyway, so sometimes not vocalizing things works to your benefit.
Well I'll tell you this much-"Closed mouths don't get fed"-in other words, if you don't start opening up, you won't get any PU$$Y(Or at least any that you would want.) Unless your jock or have some kind of special, unique, talent, chicks will pass you up, you can bank on that. This isn't the movies where the quite-strong guy gets the girl, this is reality.
Nightspark
Senior Don Juan
Yes quiet guys can get chicks if they believe that they can! In their mentality i guess they realise that they do not have to say too much to get a girl to be interested in them. Ever heard of the Strong But Silent Type?
And one other thing...
What makes you think that if they're with that girl that they are quiet?
Godspeed
-Nightspark
And one other thing...
What makes you think that if they're with that girl that they are quiet?
Godspeed
-Nightspark
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
joe45
Senior Don Juan
i gotta say NO now comin from a quite and yet shy guy all my life. i have yet to date or have a gf lol don;t laugh its the truth.
gals don';t come on to guys- guys have to come on to the girls that just how it works-yea it sucks for us quite guy but just the way it is
gals don';t come on to guys- guys have to come on to the girls that just how it works-yea it sucks for us quite guy but just the way it is
Life-Trainee
Master Don Juan
I don't think "quiet" means not putting moves on a chick and waiting for her to approach YOU. My idea of quiet guy is a guy who's observant but doesn't necessarily talk much especially in social situations.
joe45
Senior Don Juan
ok then thats differ
stalluproar
Senior Don Juan
I would recommend to slow down, you dont want to be a nervous wreck, but I would NOT recommend to talk about boring things such as news, current events, weather, etc during a date. These are the easiset things to slot you into average. Dates are supposed to be fun. Get to know things about her and expand on it and use C&F.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
iveyleeger
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Focus on body language if you're not good at talking. I've got women to come on to me simply using eye contact, and good posture. Never said a word. It works!
Note: I'm _very_ shy. Would I be here at age 31 if I wasnt?
Note: I'm _very_ shy. Would I be here at age 31 if I wasnt?
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That's why you don't get chicks, not because you're quiet.
There's a difference between a STRONG silent man and a weak, insecure silent man. You don't have to talk all the time, but you have to learn to be comfortable and confident with it.
And learn to make at least BASIC conversation.